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Handouts for parents about Understanding ACEs, toxic stress, resilience & Parenting with ACEs

Updated November, 11, 2021

Please see the main post for these parent handouts in the ACEs Connection Resources Center.

These two flyers can be downloaded, distributed, and used freely.


Parenting to Prevent and Heal ACEs

This handout is based on the work of Donna Jackson Nakazawa, who worked with us and generously allowed us to paraphrase content from her book, Childhood Disrupted: How Your Biography Becomes Your Biology & How You Can Heal. Donna's book specifically addresses those of us parenting with ACEs (which she also does brilliantly in the powerful documentary, Wrestling Ghosts, which is about parenting and healing from ACEs).

This handout can be downloaded, distributed, and used freely. It is available in the following languages:

Family Hui, a Program of Lead for Tomorrow, provided generous support towards the creation and translation of this flyer.


Understanding ACEs

This is an updated version of the popular hand-out created and shared by the Community & Family Services Division at the Spokane (WA) Regional Health District. The original version has been downloaded thousands and thousands of times and has been used by both individuals and organizations.

The updated flyer can be downloaded, distributed, and used freely. It is available in the following languages:

Family Hui, a Program of Lead for Tomorrow, provided generous support towards the creation and translation of this flyer. This resource was reviewed by the California Collaborative ACEs Learning and Quality Improvement Collaborative (CALQIC) Patient Community Advisory Board. CALQIC also supported translation of the document.



PAST Post: Thanks to the Community & Family Services Division at the Spokane (WA) Regional Health District for putting together this handout for parents.

I found out about it when while doing a story about the trauma-informed elementary schools in Spokane, WA. Public health nurse Melissa Charbonneau mentioned that she'd been giving this to parents while working in neighborhoods near Whitman Elementary School in Spokane.

We've updated it. Feel free to download and distribute.

Our hope is that these can be shared with parents, teachers, survivors, medical professionals, and others.

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Brianne Twombly posted:

Does anyone know if the understanding ACEs handout has been translated into Arabic or if there is a similar handout available in Arabic?  Thanks.

The World Health Organization's 'WHO ACE International Questionnaire' was available in 'over 100 languages' on the WHO website. WHO did have a ' User's guide-book' to accompany it. I can't specifically say about the 'Understanding ACEs' handout.

HI Tina. You can download, edit and use them as you wish but just please give credit to those that created them (the info at the end: "Thanks to the people in the Community & Family Services Division at the Spokane (WA) Regional Health District for developing this handout for parents in Washington State, and sharing it with others around the world".

When I have spoken to my doctor(s) concerning ACEs, I get little response.  I have made the connection between my own childhood experiences and ACE score and the medical issues I deal with, but my doctors do not seem to be on board with this (perhaps since it isn't covered in medical school?).  They seem to listen, but are unwilling to give it weight or merit because it doesn't relate to their "numbers learning" in terms of this test result number means this diagnosis.  I'd like to lead them away from their numbers learning, but they don't seem comfortable with that.  And until medical experts start emphasizing, and the hard sciences get on board with these concepts completely, we won't made headway.  Thank goodness for those medical experts (thank you) who do!  It's an uphill battle in the Washington DC area -- especially Montgomery County, Maryland where I live.

I'm about four weeks away from finishing my master's degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling at Johns Hopkins.  It would be a grand goal to be able to gain the listening ears of some medical professionals here.

I share Christine's observation that a portion of the people I'm trying to reach "tune out" when first hearing the words adverse childhood experiences, trauma, and traumatic stress.  That's why I like that Resilience is the flip side of these handouts.  When educating staff, childcare providers, and others I start the conversation with ACEs.  When educating the general public, I start the conversation with promoting resilience, and back into ACEs once I'm sure I've got their attention.  Thank you for the additional resource!

Tina & Everyone:
I agree that saying "toxic stress"" is more accurate but I'm not sure what I think about it being at the top of the hand-out. Whenever I say things like "trauma" or "toxic stress" I find some people self-censor or don't bother reading because they think, "Doesn't apply to me." I struggle with this all of the time in sharing info. about ACEs. I never know how much to say, at the start, or if, when and how to add stuff about ACEs in, in the middle. 
I wonder if it's helpful to have the flyer in both forms. I think learning how not to be stressed is a safe way for some people to start to think and talk about toxic and traumatic stress. That was true for me. I didn't even know ACEs I had were considered traumatic or toxic until well into my adult years. 
Does anyone else struggle with this in getting the message out to others? Maybe in some circumstances, like a doctor's office, being more specific and less general is even more important - especially for getting buy in from other doctors. I'm just not so sure with families what gets people to keep reading or turns people away. 
Cissy

Jane, I forgot to tell  you that one participant came up to me after the workshop and reported that after hearing the presentation and looking at the handout you graciously allowed me to print as a handout that she was high on the ACEs scale. She said many things happened in her childhood that were on the list. She was so grateful for all of the information. 

Comment By Peter Chiavetta: Handouts for parents about ACEs, toxic stress
&...

Hi

I also love these handouts. They have been a wonderful help. One piece of
feedback is that some of the non-parental caregivers have said resilience
sheet is triggering and they would prefer to see β€œcaregiver” or β€œfamily
support” or some other term given so many children may not have a parent
in the picture or are not going to get this kind of support from their
parent.



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