Every Monday and Thursday since the pandemic started in March I do a video "Mental Health Check-In" on Facebook Live. The goal is to increase mental health literacy and to end the stigma of discussing mental illness. Additionally, I'd like for us to move away from the term "mental illness" and towards trauma-informed language in which we understand that illness of the mind, body, and spirit are deeply intertwined with the physical and emotional experiences—not just events we remember—but the nuance of the emotional soup of each passing moment. 18 years of moments create our mindset, our limiting beliefs, our way of seeing, our way of being, and how we hold our bodies.
This is a personal project and does not necessarily represent the views and opinions of ACEs Connection, although I am a staff member here.
What is your ACEs Score?
Do you have your ACE score yet? If not, check out this video or read our blog about it, Got Your ACEs Score?
Here are the original 10 ACEs survey questions:
Did a parent or other adult in the household often or very often… Swear at you, insult you, put you down, or humiliate you? or Act in a way that made you afraid that you might be physically hurt?
No___If Yes, enter 1 __
Did a parent or other adult in the household often or very often… Push, grab, slap, or throw something at you? or Ever hit you so hard that you had marks or were injured?
No___If Yes, enter 1 __
Did an adult or person at least 5 years older than you ever… Touch or fondle you or have you touch their body in a sexual way? or Attempt or actually have oral, anal, or vaginal intercourse with you?
No___If Yes, enter 1 __
Did you often or very often feel that … No one in your family loved you or thought you were important or special? or Your family didn’t look out for each other, feel close to each other, or support each other?
No___If Yes, enter 1 __
Did you often or very often feel that … You didn’t have enough to eat, had to wear dirty clothes, and had no one to protect you? or Your parents were too drunk or high to take care of you or take you to the doctor if you needed it?
No___If Yes, enter 1 __
Were your parents ever separated or divorced?
No___If Yes, enter 1 __
Was your mother or stepmother:
Often or very often pushed, grabbed, slapped, or had something thrown at her? or Sometimes, often, or very often kicked, bitten, hit with a fist, or hit with something hard? or Ever repeatedly hit over at least a few minutes or threatened with a gun or knife?
No___If Yes, enter 1 __
Did you live with anyone who was a problem drinker or alcoholic, or who used street drugs?
No___If Yes, enter 1 __
Was a household member depressed or mentally ill, or did a household member attempt suicide? No___If Yes, enter 1 __
Did a household member go to prison?
No___If Yes, enter 1 __
The Hidden ACE
One of these ACEs is especially more hidden than the others. We may spend our whole lives feeling empty and not understand why.
My very favorite book to help start healing this hidden ACE is called Running on Empty by Jonice Webb, PhD.
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