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Unloved Daughters and The Feeling of Faking It [Blogs.PsychCentral.com]

 

One often neglected theme is the fear of somehow being unmasked or shown up to be fraudulent in some important way that many adult daughters experience; that irrational but powerful fear is a direct consequence of not having their emotional needs met in childhood. Some of that feeling of faking it seems to emanate from the shame they feel—of being excluded from the magic circle of being loved and still wondering whether they are somehow to blame. This is an unconscious pattern of thought that bubbles up to the surface in times of stress and anxiety and, unless she’s been in therapy, the chances are good that the daughter won’t recognize its provenance.



[For more of this story, written by Peg Streep, go to https://blogs.psychcentral.com...eeling-of-faking-it/]

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Kelly Bushey posted:
Are there any resources about the beliefs your parents instilled in you?
For example, my mother was abused in every way possible as she was growing
up. While raising me, she was WAY OVER PROTECTIVE and convinced me that men
are terrible human beings. I would never say that I was unloved by my
mother, I know that I was. However, I have two failed marriages and several
long term relationships that have failed. I believe, but would like to have
something to read about and work through, that it all has something to do
with my relationship with my mother. Thoughts? resources to consider?
Thanks so much!

On Tue, Sep 5, 2017 at 7:14 AM, ACEsConnection <
communitymanager@acesconnection.com> wrote:

A book "It didn't start with you " How to end the family trauma cycle.by Mark Wolynn. Ways to understand and release the hook of trauma.

 

Are there any resources about the beliefs your parents instilled in you?
For example, my mother was abused in every way possible as she was growing
up. While raising me, she was WAY OVER PROTECTIVE and convinced me that men
are terrible human beings. I would never say that I was unloved by my
mother, I know that I was. However, I have two failed marriages and several
long term relationships that have failed. I believe, but would like to have
something to read about and work through, that it all has something to do
with my relationship with my mother. Thoughts? resources to consider?
Thanks so much!

On Tue, Sep 5, 2017 at 7:14 AM, ACEsConnection <
communitymanager@acesconnection.com> wrote:
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