Three Steps to Say “No” Gracefully [GreaterGood.Berkeley.edu]

Samantha Sangenito 10/4/174:00 AM

Yesterday, a friend asked me if she could borrow my car to run a long-distance errand because my little car gets better mileage than her big one. I wanted to say no; switching cars on an already busy day felt like a hassle to me. But I didn’t say no. Instead, I hemmed and hawed and hesitated, hoping she’d get the hint.

It can be really hard to say no. Despite my best attempts not to care what other people think of me, I still find myself wanting to be liked. I don’t want people to think I’m selfish. More than that, I don’t want to be selfish. And I never want to miss easy opportunities to help someone out.

[For more of this story, written by Christine Carter, go to https://greatergood.berkeley.e...to_say_no_gracefully]

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