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The tender, terrifying truth about what happened inside the Trader Joe's hostage siege [latimes.com]

 

About halfway through the three-hour siege at Trader Joe’s in Silver Lake, the wounded gunman, Gene Atkins, looked at one of his hostages, MaryLinda Moss, and told her it was all over for him. “I just shot at a cop,” he said.

Moss, a 55-year-old artist who exudes calm, feared a suicidal gunman could spark a bloodbath. Through a series of disastrous decisions by Atkins, dozens of strangers had ended up at the grocery store on a hot Saturday afternoon, drenched in fear and surrounded by SWAT teams, helicopters, squad cars and ambulances.

She put her hand on his heart.

“I told him: ‘There’s always hope. I know you have a good heart, and I know you don’t want to hurt anybody.’”

Atkins, 28, protested: “You don’t know what I’ve done.”

Earlier that day, prosecutors say, he had wounded his grandmother during a family fight in South Los Angeles, then forced his girlfriend into a car and fled. Hours later, he led police on a chase, which ended when he crashed outside Trader Joe’s.

“When you put your hand on somebody’s heart,” Moss told me 10 days later, sitting on the stoop of her home in Mount Washington, “it grounds them. I was trying to ground him, and manipulate him, yes, in the best way.”

On July 22, the day after the standoff, she sat down with a voice recorder and recounted, while it was still fresh, everything she could remember about the trauma. It was days before she felt emotionally ready to share her story publicly. When she was, she gave me her recordings, and we talked in person for three hours. The quotes from Atkins and others are based on her recollections.

[To read the rest of this article by Robin Abcarian, click here.]

[Image: Allen J. Schaben / Los Angeles Times]

 

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Gail Kennedy (ACEs Connection Staff) posted:

Such a powerful article, thank you for posting, Laura!  And Teri, thank you for sharing your experiences with us - it sounds absolutely harrowing as Laura said. And what strength you have found Teri to be able to read this article and find compassion - truly amazing.

Thanks so much, Gail. It has definitely been a journey. I knew I had reached a turning point in my life when I discovered James Mills (the bank robber who had pulled the trigger on my coworker, Marsha Burger) had died in prison. I immediately fell to my knees (literally) and cried, a weight lifted from my shoulders, "Please forgive him, God." I have since returned to the scene of the crime (I was attending a funeral for a family friend just a block away) and was able to be there without overwhelming emotion. The power of the healing journey!

Peace,

Teri

Laura Pinhey posted:

Score yet another one for trauma survivors and what they can bring to the trauma-informed/ACEs movement -- true compassion borne of having been there themselves.

 

Yes! I absorb all of the research presented on this and other venues, but connect on a heart and soul level to the personal stories of survival and triumph. Those "I get it" connections are invaluable as we move forward in our healing. 

Peace,

Teri

www.teriwellbrock.com

Such a powerful article, thank you for posting, Laura!  And Teri, thank you for sharing your experiences with us - it sounds absolutely harrowing as Laura said. And what strength you have found Teri to be able to read this article and find compassion - truly amazing.

Teri, your experiences with the bank robberies sound positively harrowing. Terribly sorry that you went through that, but it sounds as if in reading this article today you got to see evidence of some significant progress in your healing. And I know from some of your other posts on this site that you have had some real breakthroughs and triumphs. 

And you're not the first person today who has been brought to tears by this article. It is a very moving story. Here is a trauma survivor, in the midst of yet another trauma, who instinctively recognizes what the shooter needs during these tense moments and has the courage and presence of mind to offer it to him. Score yet another one for trauma survivors and what they can bring to the trauma-informed/ACEs movement -- true compassion borne of having been there themselves.

 

Wow. Tears streaming. I just had a conversation last night with friends over dinner about fight/flight/freeze responses in moments of terror. It came up as a topic as our dogs were recently attacked by another dog while hiking in a nature preserve and our friends chiming in about their dog being attacked while walking in our neighborhood. We all responded differently: I froze in terror, unable to move. Meanwhile, my partner sprung immediately into action and lifted our little dog above her head, using her body to shield and block our labradoodle, while screaming at the owner of the attacking animal to grab his. Of the other couple, the wife dove on her dog, trying to protect it. Her husband used violence to try to stop the attack. 

I have survived two armed bank robberies, both resulting in bloodshed, both perpetrated by the same gunmen (they were not caught after the first robbery of our branch office and returned three months later to rob our main office - I had just transferred from the branch to the main office). In both instances I came face-to-face with the assailants. Robbery one - held hostage with a gun to my left temple while watching my coworker bleed profusely from three stab wounds to his back. The second robbery - as a coworker was shot and murdered (by the same gunman and gun that had been held to my head only three months prior), I was hiding after fleeing the bank and heard approaching footsteps, running hard and fast, when I looked to my right, only to be staring down the barrel of a semi-automatic Luger. Fortunately, a K-9 unit was in hot pursuit, the Luger misfired, and my life was spared. Yet again.

Reading this story, something I normally do not do as I avoid anything that may trigger my C-PTSD symptoms, I was moved to tears. Not tears of fear or sadness. I sat staring at my computer screen, as those tears cascaded, and said out lout, "That was beautiful." 

The compassion shown by a hostage toward the gunman was truly magnificent. As I have come to a place of forgiveness for my transgressors (including both bank robbers/murderers), I realized I had no idea what had transpired in their lives. Had they been abused, neglected, terrorized in some way as children? Where had they turned away from innocence and started down a dark road of hopelessness? In a way, I connected with Moss, this calm and gentle soul, who grounded the gunman, connecting with him on a heart level. I have done that with my own gun-toting ghosts, in forgiving them. 

I froze in terror during those bank robberies/murder scenes. 

This woman, a hero in my eyes, did not fight or flee or freeze. She felt. She connected. She empathized. She calmed. She empowered. And in doing so, she saved lives. Including the life of a lost-soul gun-wielding perpetrator. 

Beautiful.

Peace,

Teri

www.teriwellbrock.com

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