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the most helpful thing i've learned about healing trauma

healing trauma is first and foremost about
becoming an environment where healing happens
 
which means,
establishing safety
nudging my nervous out of fight, flight, and freeze
dropping away from unhelpful patterns such as "efforting" (or "avoiding")
learning to notice, to allow, to rest
to receive all the support
being given right now:
(this chair, this cool breath
the soft hum of
belonging
to life)
 
the body wants to heal
mostly its about helping the mind to stop interrupting
and get on board
as an ally
 
becoming an environment where healing happens
means finding and creating safe space...
in my day, in my home,
in my own mind and body
in my relationships....
and visiting,
often
 
it gets easier with practice
to become an environment of healing 
for my child
my partner
my students
other people
once I've cultivated safe places
healing spaces 
for myself
 
becoming an environment where healing happens
is counter-cultural, is a practice
an incarnational
annointing
a radical movement of 
grace
 
the body wants to heal
the brain must only agree 
to pause the big plans and endless pontifications
to gently stop, stop, stop
and turn toward that
holy whisper,
calling:
come home
 
dedicated to Amy B. Scher who told us it was possible
 
 

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This is so beautiful. Tears. Truth.  

The mind β€” and brain β€” as allies? Yes. Yes. Yes. What a concept.

When we practice the care and have the community of sane adults who love us as allies, this healing is made possible.

To say that β€œbecoming an environment where healing can happen is counter-cultural” is such profound truth. I would so love for everyone in the world to understand this, as we can so easily be driven (and so easily drive others!) in the exact opposite direction, the direction of self-retraumatization and traumatizarion with the β€œhurry ups” and β€œwhy can’t yous” and β€œwhat the heck is wrong heres” that are an accepted part of everyday life and language. And we will help turn that around, with pauses in poetry such as yours. Because just as peace brings peace, trauma brings trauma.  And we are the peacemakers who will keep holding up each other and this movement if and when we take time to remember and BE what and who you’ve described.

This beautiful piece is going to be posted on my wall, and will be shared widely. Thank you. 

Peace B Peace,



carey

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