Megan Meier suicide - Mother's role

Tonight I watched this clip again...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HFsfDLCkfQU

I want to point out a few things.

At 1:40 the mother says "This is the part I will never forgive myself for..."

Then she says she was "upset" with Megan because she "didn't like the language she was using."

And she says "I was upset because she didn't listen to me and sign off when I told her to."

Please note that the mother, Tina, confuses listening with obeying.

Then Tina says she told her daughter that she "knew better."

At that point Megan felt worse, not better, from talking with her mother.

Let me repeat that. Megan felt *worse* after talking with her mother.

So then Megan said, and understandably so, "You're supposed to be my mom. You're supposed to be on my side."

Then she ran upstairs and hung herself.

So let me say once again, Megan felt *worse* after talking to her mother.

So before you tell a child or teenager to "talk to their parents" please keep that in mind.

And this is by no means an isolated case of a sensitive person feeling worse after talking to their parents. It is just one of the most transparent.

Nearly everyone in the Megan Meier case is talking about the cyber bullying. But who is talking about what was perhaps the most painful of all for Megan - the lack of her own mother's support?

Will anyone here in the Aces community acknowedge this? Or will everyone here bury their head in the sand like most people?

By the way, I am not saying the father is innocent. He admits that he also saw Megan as she was running up the stairs. Sadly, he was of no more help than the mother. He said somethink, "It will be ok" but I doubt that helped Megen feel understood. So it is very possible she also felt even worse after his words, too.

Neither of them went to her room to comfort her. The mother in particular did not immediately go and apologize. But what if she would have?

No one seems to want to think about these things, But I believe, as Martin Luther King once said, "the time has come for America to hear the truth.."

Here is my page on Megan Meier for anyone who wants to read more. That page links to another much more detailed one.