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How to #ListenFirst in your community: Lessons from Zenora Watford

 


752FAE0C-C04B-4971-B2AD-2B016C4A7F0FHappy #ListenFirst Friday! This week our message comes from Zenora Watford.

In August of 2020, Pearce Godwin, founder and chief executive officer of the Listen First Project, sat down with Zenora Watford outside a Bojangles in North Carolina to discuss how she navigates conversations across differences.

Her amazing perspective, garnered from over 80 years of living, is filled with grace, kindness, and experiences that can challenge us all to think and act differently, especially toward others who might have vastly different experiences. She has instilled those values in her daughter, Patricia, who also joins the discussion toward the end when talking about how we should treat others as compassionate listeners. In her words, "don't just be hearers of the word, let's be doers of the word." And although coming from a distinctly Christian perspective, we think Patricia's advice is more generally sound: Let's not just say that we will #ListenFirst, let's actually put that idea into practice every day.

How to #ListenFirst in your community:

  1. Come in with an open mind, ready to learn and grow
  2. Allow others the courtesy of silence while they are speaking
  3. Maintain a calm and respectful tone while speaking
  4. Be present and curious rather than thinking how to respond
  5. Fully engage, free of distractions

This #ListenFirst Friday we encourage you to incorporate Zenora’s wisdom into your everyday conversations. Zenora’s kind words and open ears are a reminder to all that the simplest of actions have an overwhelming effect on someone else.

To watch the video, please visit our YouTube channel at https://youtu.be/o7HBbB1sIp0

Thank you for joining us on this journey.

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In social climates of heated emotions and violent intolerance, it may not be enough to just not think/act hateful; we also need to display kindness. For example, following the June 6 killings in London, Ontario, of four members of a family for being Muslim, Prime Minister Justin Trudeau suggested to Canadians that “the next time you see a woman in a hijab or a [Muslim] family out for a stroll, give them a smile.”

Due to seemingly plentiful incidents of hate-motivated crimes, his thoughtful request can be applicable to a wide array of such inexcusable attacks. I feel that offering a sincere smile can be a healthy and powerful, yet relatively effortless, potential response by caring individuals to acts of hate targeted at other identifiable-group members of society. (One might also wear anti-hate symbolism, e.g. a colored ribbon or shirt.)

I decided to do this as my own rebellious response to the (as anticipated) acts of racial/religious intolerance that soon followed Donald Trump’s 2016 presidential election victory. Anti-Trump demonstrators’ catchy slogan was “Love Trumps Hate”. Not much for the non-family ‘love’ part, I would do the next best thing by offering a sincere smile.

On one occasion, I smiled at a middle-aged Black woman as I passed her along the sidewalk. To me, she had a lined expression of one who’d endured a hard life. I gave her a smile, and her seemingly tired face lit up with her own smile, as though mine was the last thing she’d expected to receive. We always greet one another, since then, and converse when awaiting the bus.

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