The abuse began at about age 8 or so. My mother, the abuser created for me a mythical figure.. Cute kid with curly blonde hair and lots of personality. Outgoing and friendly kid and did not know at the time this was all encouraged by my mother and her unmarried sisters. Is it possible to have more then one surrogate parent? In my case, answer is yes. I grew up feeling a sense of power and privilege .. I used that power to intimidate others and became a kind of dreaded kid in the classroom. Girls were really attracted to me and I used the power for sex beginning at about age 10 or so.. Boys were not excluded. Satisfy me sexually was the only goal. I cared not for the other person.
Life did not improve much until and when therapy came into my life.. I had to reckon the feelings of despair and being alone that I felt beginning very early . I really did not have any friends only conquests.. People learned to stay away from me . Oh, I knew I was good looking but learned just how shallow that is and how much I yearned for a friend, real friend.
Yes, therapy helped and had lots of it. One on one with therapists also helped but this feeling of being important does not just go away. I must and am constantly vigilant observing and grading my behavior. I am still and use this word not with any pride; a sex addict. Men and women have sought me out . Men still do despite my age. I am retired.
I am a victim of sexual abuse. Like color of hair and eyes it does not go away. I married an abuse victim, another sex addict herself. She was abused by her father beginning at about age 11 till she was a teen. Father, the county district attorney and basically untouchable. I , the son of the mayor in a real sense, also untouchable I committed criminal behavior with other high school boys. We all got caught. Given a choice the judge offered me one year, boys reformatory or join the military. The military did more for me then any single intervention.
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