Hello Everyone!
My name is Jabulile Daka. For the past 5 years, I've been running an organization called Come ALIVE Movement, here in Zambia. I started this organization in order to reach more individuals that have suffered ACEs, and need healing.
I have personally dealt with quiet a number of young ladies and some young men, who have suffered the Post Traumatic Stress of Child Sexual Abuse and other ACEs. I've seen first hand how these things take a toll on these individuals. I've seen it over and over again in their eyes, in their voices, in their countenances. But I also know, because being a survivor myself, I've been there... They are broken, lost, desperate, and they very often feel hopeless, helpless and worthless. Our society doesn't help, because we have this culture of not acknowledging emotional issues as real issues to be taken seriously. Personally, it took me more than 15 years to finally get to hear anyone talk about how that Childhood Trauma can cause serious damage to an individual.
My aim with this organization is to help spread the word about the PACEs Science and Mental Health in Zambia, and to also help bring healing to as many traumatized individuals as I possibly can.
I also recently had to make the decision to walk away from my 5year marriage, because of the extreme Emotional Neglect me and my children suffered from my husband. On my journey to heal from the trauma of being emotionally neglected, I discovered that there are so many women going through the same in marriages, but have been silently dying because our society here in Zambia does not deem Emotional Neglect as a reason one should leave a marriage for. Especially if the man is even barely proving, and he is the breadwinner. Which is the case for most marriages, unfortunately.
Many families, just like mine, don't support a woman who wants to walk away from such a toxic marriage. They are told, just like I have been, that it will bring disgrace to the family if she leaves. That it doesn't matter what he does or doesn't do, the woman must just endure and keep the marriage together. That she should just humble herself and not be proud by refusing to tolerate the man's toxic behaviour.
I'm very stubborn, and have refused to listen to all this talk by my family. I'm literally forcing myself on my mother right now, as I have no where else to live, but she has made it very clear, both in words and in her actions that she doesn't want me here. I will stay, because she is my mother. But I know that there are many women out there who are not this strong, and just stay in these toxic marriages, and don't even talk about what they are going through. I am looking for partners to work with, who can help with awareness creation around mental health, and also setting up a safehouse for women with no where to go, when they decide to leave a toxic marriage.
For any donations, you can use:
+260975793028 on Worldremit or for direct bank transfer: 9340005787743 ZANACO BANK.
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