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Better Training for Foster Parents Could Have Changed My Life [chronicleofsocialchange.org]

 

When I was 11 years old, I went to the doctor for a check-up and my whole world stopped. In that one moment, the family I had spent six months becoming a part of decided against adoption. I was removed from my biological mother at just six months, and this was the closest I had ever been to joining a family.

One week before a judge made me somebody’s daughter, my almost-parents decided that they did not want “a kid with a baby.”

“You’re pregnant!”

“What were you thinking?”

“There are consequences for your actions.”

“You can’t stay here.”

When I was 12 years old, I gave birth to my incredible daughter, Seana. I ended up in a series of group homes, involved with juvenile justice, and lost my parental rights before I even had the chance to rock her to sleep.

[For more on this story by Anonymous, go to https://chronicleofsocialchang...amily-training/28441]

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Imagine the pain this person carries everyday from the separation from her own child. 

Society judges birth mothers for not being adequate for their children. It's more complicated than that, as described by one mom in this piece. 

I'm very thankful this birth mom had the guts to write about her experience. Few do, and I understand why. To be a birth mother is one of the most stygmatized roles a human can fulfill. 

Few of us disclose because of the toxic reactions we invariably will be subjected to. 

It's a topic that's being brought into the foreground in 2020 post the 4 year investigation cycle in Scotland to produce The Care Review.

I hope this piece serves as a reminder that not all birth moms are the irresponsible, selfish, unhealthy people we are often characterized as. 

When you're talking about adoption, please don't judge birth moms if you've never been one yourself. Remember this mom. Her pain represents what many of us live with daily. 

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