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Benefits of Having a Deadbeat Dad (Really)

*There are so many times I have simply despised Father's Day. Close to 50 now and I feel differently. There are benefits and blessings even to not having a Dad. This is NOT an argument FOR fatherlessness for anyone. But it is a real-life experience and what I've noticed in my years without a father. It references the many losses which I've detailed in other writer. But the experience is not one-dimensional and this year that's where my thoughts/feelings went of Father's Day. And actually - it's kind of remarkable.

My father left before I turned 1. I got his nose, last name and lousy vision.

He was gone before I acquired a vocabulary. I never got to string together the three letters to make the Dad word for him. Not once.

 

He didn’t get to see me grow up. I didn’t get to see him age.

 

My teen mother raised us on her own without financial or emotional support. There are undeniable losses.

 

Those are obvious.

 

But there are gains, benefits and unintended positive consequences of having a deadbeat dad

Read More: http://www.elephantjournal.com...ving-a-deadbeat-dad/

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Thank you Fiona. So many people DESPISE the term Deadbeat Dad and I have to admit I had no idea it was so charged for so many. I guess it's sometimes used for fathers who are just poor and can't pay more child support as opposed to fathers who walked out and provided no support or contact. Thanks for reading and commenting!

Warmly,

Cissy

Beautifully written as always Cissy. I like being reminded of what there is to be grateful about deadbeat dads. I also like your reminder of the ability us fatherless children have to appreciate all those small acts of kindness. Thank you.

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