An Alternative View of Resilience

Alternatives are a good thing. Having only one point of view has limits brought on by denial of all other points of view. Smoking pot is a form of resilience from the underlying pain. Substituting pot smoking for " community, volunteer activities, or some faith based involvement are almost in the same boat for the same reason. I would like to toss out psychology all together as a first response to Undischarged Traumatic Stress. Read Bonded Pain also known as bonded trauma. The near endless labeling and analyzing of the results from adverse events has done little to move the ball down the field. Lots of labels and data with slow hard results. Building a community ( out of wounded people ) to create an environment for a wounded person to feel better in is also a slow path.  I look at consciousness and how it works. Consciousness is the feeling of energy. Then mind defines the energy into words and thoughts. We exist and thrive or die by the quality of the content of our consciousness. We have 4 ways of processing and they are Thoughts, Feelings, Memories and Imaginations. The 4 strings of our consciousness instrument. All emotional wounding happens from the outside (us) in. And all healing happens from the inside out. Thoughts are causal for keeping and igniting feelings. So change your thoughts and your feelings change. Memories and imaginations ( conclusions ) are also not fixed to one truth or point of view. Change the memories and you will change the imagination and conclusions. Anybody can do this. We are not fixed. But we do not have a choice until we instal the ability to chose. We also do not have a self unless we instal a functioning developed self. For this view as an alternative to psychology and resilience one needs a process. And this process is much closer to house cleaning than it is to any form of therapy.  Process trumps information any time any day.

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I absolutely agree, Rose. We talk about attachment infrequently and it should be one of our top priorities. My own assessment is that parents who are toxically stressed will have already adopted their coping behaviors (which I refer to as gap fillers in another post) and those behaviors have to be addressed in a way that stops them. An alcoholic, depressed and domestically abused parent will still be passing on negative experiences to their child even if they parent effectively otherwise. Early on, I came to the conclusion that healing for the parenting generation should be a high priority. In my mind, healing means finding ways to reduce the Gap I write about by eliminating the coping behaviors. Then we can focus on a culture of effective parenting.

In the Alaska I work in, very few have looked as deeply as you have at attachment. And even fewer at what it takes for a parent to heal enough to reduce or eliminate their child exposure to ACE's.

Can you add the link here, Patrick? I'm sure others, including me, would like to see the presentation.

Thank you for your comment Chantelle. I did a presentation that was video taped on an Alternative View of Resilience. I would be happy to send a link to you if you think you would watch it. I have advanced the concept with more information that I am writing about here. If you feel comfortable doing so, send me your email address and I will send you the video.

I'm interested in hearing more. I have been becoming increasingly uncomfortable about the resilience movement and lack of attribution to the system impacts all around us

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