This is painful. It’s something I never wanted to, or thought, we’d have to talk about. With the upheaval in our country on all sides caused by the election results, everything feels a bit tougher these past few weeks. It’s like many of us are trying to walk through mud with every step… wondering how to move forward in these uncertain times.
In my counseling practice, clients who have experienced trauma work hard in therapy to feel safe enough and calm enough each day. Understandably in light of the current political and social environment, many clients have asked the question, “How can I feel safe enough right now?” The answer is relevant to everyone.
Whether you’ve dealt with trauma or not, most are dealing with at least some of the difficulties of life. Now more than ever, it’s essential that we find safe places and have our voices heard in a safe and peaceful way. Here are my 8 recommendations to feel safe right now:
- Remember your own self-care skills. As adults, we do have some power and have often learned skills that help us feel calm and safe, whether it’s mindfulness, a grounding object or turning off the TV. Start by implementing these boundaries discussed in this post.
- Grieve. This is an important step that shouldn’t be overlooked. It’s okay to grieve for what you thought was going to happen. Allow yourself time to be sad or cry until you can reach some level of acceptance from which you can take the next step.
- Surround yourself with the people who make you feel supported and safe. Make it a point to see and speak with the people who make you feel seen, heard, and supported. Go for coffee with a friend, go for a walk with a neighbor or arrange a family dinner. Healthy relationships matter.
- Help the greater good. Fight fear and anger with kindness, whether small acts or large ones. Consider volunteering your time for a great organization that needs support.
- Be a safe space. Whether you wear a safety pin or not, choose to be a safe space for those around you.
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