When you’re a people pleaser, setting boundaries can feel painful. We worry we’ll hurt someone’s feelings. We fear we’ll fracture the relationship. We think saying no is rude or cruel or not compassionate—and we see ourselves as the opposite of these things.
And we simply don’t have much practice with setting boundaries. And so, it’s so much easier to simply not set them. It’s so much easier to stay quiet. But it’s certainly not healthier.
Many view boundaries as walls. But, according to psychotherapist David Teachout, LMHCA, boundaries are more like sponges.
[For more on this story by Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S., go to https://psychcentral.com/lib/7-pointers-for-setting-boundaries-when-youre-a-true-blue-people-pleaser/]
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