5 Critical Things to Know About Family Scapegoating Abuse (FSA) [blogs.psychcentral.com]

I am a scapegoat. I've endured a lot of trauma in my life, including almost being stabbed to death by a ptsd combat veteran. That was not ng n comparison to the scaoegoat abuse. Nothing.

My golden  child brother would  scream in my face for an hour straight about being an embarrassment and a failure. I used to be a college instructor married to an a too! How is that failing? Also, finally get angry and yell Back  My niece. The epitome if a flying monkey, recorded me. And my brother would call the police. I was never committed. It infuriated hm.

If he had nothing "on me" He would lie. One of the last ones was just before contact ended when he claimed that I was taking heavy narcotics. The implication was that I was on Street drugs. I was not on any narcotic . I took an antidepressant. I took a nonaddictive. Medication to help me sleep on some nights. And klonopin has been for anxie. Who would not have anxiety in the family? That that's what he told everybody. And sadly they believed him. Nothing I could say or do but proves otherwise. My mother's neighbour fed up with him. Finally came over one night and got all of my medication. She looked everyone up on the Internet and came back saying. There aren't any narcotics. There's only one controlled substance season. What is he talking about? And I explained he's just lying. There's no reason for him to make up lies. About me. And try to destroy what little life I have. As I was a widow with a young child at the time. There's no reason at all other than he's a very sick person. But he learned it all. Honestly. He learned it from my mother. She would claim she was scared with me. She said things that indicated I had attacked her or injured her. This simply wasn't true and could have caused me to get into a lot of trouble for elder abuse. Nobody was hurting my mother. But she was so desperate and her narcissistic. Self centered world. For attention. That should actually tell people things like that. Everything in our family was a secret. You aren't supposed to discuss anything that was wrong. Unless it had to do with me. It's it was something about me. True or not? It was open season all the timeN

My life is, at best, okay now. Money is tight --- I'm on disability. I still wonder what I did wrong. No matter how much I read, I simply cannot get it through my head that the Abuse was not personal. If you are another scapegoat. And we're reading this. My prayers are with you. May God be with you. For it's the most terrible thing I can ever imagine. I cannot put words. To the horror Android. I will never have any self shame. Even the most people think I'm very pretty. And funny. And  Intelligent. The self esteem. It just will never come. Not after 45 years of being told. I was absolutely worthless. Nothing can make that go awa

Lisa

I continue tgerapy and maintain at least some hope! But it's not much hope,