Tagged With "Make Resilience Matter"
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Resentment: A Trigger for CPTSD and Dysregulation
What’s the difference between anger and resentment in Childhood PTSD? Is it really so wrong to be resentful? Isn’t there a risk of becoming a forgiving “doormat” if you lose the resentment you carry against those who wronged you? In this video I explain the everyday toxicity of resentful thoughts, and how to use my Daily Practice to release resentment and fear, and gain more clarity, and more power to make choices in life. You can learn my techniques for releasing fear and resentment, and...
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Resources 4 Resilience (www.r4r.support) & Commentary
We have the best community. And it feels like a community even more right now when things are scary, threatening, and uncertain. Yesterday, Jondi Whitis shared an amazing resource yesterday, by way of a comment, that's great for parents, survivors, providers, and families (all of us). I am making it a blog post in case others missed it or are overwhelmed, as I have been, by sifting through the information coming at us. The home page lets you easily find practices for calming. Here's one...
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Resources for ACEs Survivors
With the link between ACEs and health outcomes now firmly established, many people are asking how to help those who have survived ACEs. Often people are seeking written resources. Having developed resilience curricula that were piloted at the University of Maryland School of Public Health and taught to various high-risk populations, I’d like to suggest some resources. As an outgrowth of these trainings, I developed three books that are skills-based and experiential, since information alone...
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Self-Care: 12 Ways to Take Better Care of Yourself [psychologytoday.com]
Laura's Note: Self-care basics, because self-care is basic :). Why Self-Care Matters It’s so important to make sure you take good care of your body, mind, and soul every day, not just when you get sick. Learning how to eat right, reduce stress, exercise regularly, and take a time-out when you need it are touchstones of self-care and can keep you healthy, fit, and resilient . Why Do We Often Fail at Self-Care? Practicing self-care isn’t always easy. Most of us are crazy busy, have stressful...
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Seven Strategies I Use To Reregulate As Anxiety Symptoms Surface
So, how does Teri Wellbrock bring herself back into a state of calm once the anticipatory anxiety has been triggered? Here is Teri's personal go-to list. Please keep in mind she created this plan on a trial and error basis. She loaded her coping skills toolbox with exercises, fidgets, courses, books, therapy suggestions, and techniques discovered through personal research. Following is her top seven strategies, however, please note that she has a much larger bag-o-tricks to pull from if needed.
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Sick and Stressed from CPTSD? Power Up Your SELF CARE (Resilience Series)
I’ve been talking about resilience in recent posts — the obstacles that hold back recovery, and the strengths we need to keep healing. Last week the topic was fear. In this post (and the video that goes with it) I want to go up a layer to the next strength, and that’s self-care . I used to think self-care was just hot baths and chocolate for people whose problems were so small that this would actually solve them. But 25 years of continuous healing and strength-building has taught me that,...
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Sick and Stressed from CPTSD? Power Up Your SELF CARE (Resilience Series)
I’ve been talking about resilience in recent posts — the obstacles that hold back recovery, and the strengths we need to keep healing. Last week the topic was fear. In this post (and the video that goes with it) I want to go up a layer to the next strength, and that’s self-care . I used to think self-care was just hot baths and chocolate for people whose problems were so small that this would actually solve them. But 25 years of continuous healing and strength-building has taught me that,...
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World Premiere: Stress & Resilience: How Toxic Stress Affects Us, and What We Can Do About It [developingchild.harvard.edu]
By Center on the Developing Child, Harvard University, November 13, 2019 When the stress in your life just doesn’t let up, and it feels like you have no support to get through the day—let alone do everything you need to do to be the best parent you can be—it can seem like there’s nothing that can make it better. But there are resources that can help, and this kind of stress—known as “toxic stress”—doesn’t have to define your life. In this video, learn more about what toxic stress is, how it...
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Re: The Healing Place Podcast - Shenandoah Chefalo: Garbage Bag Suitcase
Ah, yes -- I have heard of Chefalo's memoir Garbage Bag Suitcase. I love hearing about people who've sublimated their experience with childhood trauma into work that helps others. Looking forward to listening!
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Re: The Healing Place Podcast - Louise Godbold: Echo
I think I've said this before here, Teri, but one thing I love about your podcast is it highlights how MANY people there are doing such awesome work pertaining to preventing and healing ACEs, including many folks who are active on this site. It give me great hope for the future.
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Re: CPTSD and Procrastination: Healing the Feeling of Paralysis (Resilience Series)
Anna, I think my favorite thing about your articles/videos is that as a childhood trauma survivor, they usually make me feel so SEEN (in a good way) and understood. Validated, even. Anyone else? As for procrastinating, I wonder about the role of not being in touch with who you are and what you want or need might play here. The part of us that provides the feedback that tells us who we are and what we need is often shut down or at least somewhat fogged by what we experienced. Thanks, as...
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Re: The Healing Place Podcast - Shenandoah Chefalo: Garbage Bag Suitcase
Sorry for the delay in responding . . . I was enjoying a 9 day break at the beach on the Carolina coast! I, too, find it inspirational and heartwarming to know so many are using their triumph over trauma to guide others. A beautiful testament to becoming empowered. Thanks for listening in to the show and offering feedback. Makes my heart smile! Peace, Teri
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Re: The Healing Place Podcast - Louise Godbold: Echo
Thank you, thank you! I feel blessed to have this beautiful community at ACEs Connection where I have crossed paths with so many incredible souls doing healing work in the world. I continue to be amazed by their wisdom, determination, and brilliance. Truly. I, too, have great hope for a trauma sensitive world. Peace, Teri
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Re: How You and Your Kids Can De-Stress During Coronavirus [pbs.org]
I like that! Forgot about those! And one of their best features is that, to enjoy it, you have to slow down and appreciate the effect of the 'glitter storm.' One of my favorite mentors told me long ago that the answer to many of the maladies I was observing was from what she called, 'too much, too fast.' I keep this in mind as much as I can, no matter what the situation, intervention or protocol. And I preach it to my students and clients: Slowing down helps us better regulate our system,...
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Re: How You and Your Kids Can De-Stress During Coronavirus [pbs.org]
"Too much, too fast." YES! Simple and clear but not easy to adjust that internal motor/setting/way of responding. Thanks for encouragement, reminder, explanation, and this comment, Jondi! It's just what I needed! Cissy
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Re: Positivities of Persistence Series: Persistence & Positivity Defined
Hmmmm. I don't think my husband has ever called me persistent, but he HAS called me tenacious more than once. Because I am. And I think there's a lot of overlap between persistence and tenacity. I never thought about whether my tenacity is a result of childhood trauma, but it's not a stretch to suggest that it might be, as you posit about your persistence. In fact, I'd say BOTH traits are forms of resilience, because in order to be either persistent or tenacious, you have to keep pushing,...
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Re: Positivities of Persistence Series: Persistence & Positivity Defined
Great feedback! And, yes, I have been gifted the tenacious label, too. Another one I've been told is that I am determined. Holds the hand of persistent. So glad you found your tenacity to muscle through those first 20 years. And this success meme is perfect. And oh so true! Peace, Teri
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Re: Put down the self-help books. Resilience is not a DIY endeavour (theglobeandmail.com)
This notion that resilience requires community and social support beyond what we can do individually seems to be getting a lot more press lately. While it seems that ACEs are at the root of so many social and physical ills, it's often lack of social and community support for all people that is at the root of ACEs. Thanks for sharing this, Cheryl.
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Re: Put down the self-help books. Resilience is not a DIY endeavour (theglobeandmail.com)
Thanks, Laura, this is so true in my case. Now that my son is an adult and is supporting me, I am healing at a phenomenal rate. Love and support is the healing balm. But then if we had that in our childhoods, there wouldn't be any mental illness - at least not at the level, we have now.
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Re: Put down the self-help books. Resilience is not a DIY endeavour (theglobeandmail.com)
Cheryl, I'm so happy to hear that your son is giving you the support you've needed for so long. I also believe that childhood trauma is the cause of most if not all mental illness -- and that's ANOTHER idea that is getting a lot of press lately. It seems the tide is turning favorably. Let us brace ourselves for the inevitable backlash .
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Re: Mind Matters: Overcoming Adversity and Building Resilience Two-Day Intensive Training
Thanks for posting the information about the training here, Kay.
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Re: To Heal CPTSD, Do You Need to Love Yourself?
I never thought of it this way before, but your take on the whole self-love thing is profound, and clearly comes from a place of experience. I really like what you have to say about how these steps will lead you back to knowing whom to trust, because that knowledge has been there all the while, since the get-go -- it just got knocked offline by childhood trauma. And if it got knocked offline, it can be returned to its original, true state. Thanks, as always, Anna, for posting here.
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Re: Why Trauma Survivors Can't Just "Let It Go" [themighty.com]
This made my day! Thank you 😁 Your flying motto made me laugh out loud as it has been mine, as well, for thirty-something years. As a matter of fact, when I traveled to Mexico a few years ago with a group of 8 friends, they dubbed me Captain Xanax on the plane 😂 I'm such a fan of being drug-free though that I try my best to overcome without medication. Just my own personal goal.
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Re: Trauma & Resilience in Children's Literature [1:32:19 run time]
A transcript of this video is available here .
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Re: 5 Tips to Get You Through the Kavanaugh Investigation (No Matter What Are Your Politics)
Great tips for actions anyone can take just about any time to relieve stress and process difficult emotions. These sound like good habits to develop so we always have a way to help calm ourselves no matter what is happening in our world. Thank you, Hilary.
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Re: Defining Resilience Series: Step 5 - Healthy Habit Formation
Great post, Teri. I like all the specific suggestions for how to implement each step, and that it's clear you've done all of this yourself! You are practicing what you preach and preaching what you practice. Thanks for sharing it here, and for the positive reinforcement for us all.
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Re: Defining Resilience Series: Step 5 - Healthy Habit Formation
Thank you for the positive feedback! I just read one of your "Ten Tools for Trauma Survivors" blog and felt the same about it . . . I could tell you were sharing your truth as you've lived it and healed from it. Excellent! As an EMDR fan (98 sessions over a 4 year period for complex trauma), I love reading about others' experiences with it. Thank you. Peace, Teri
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Re: Defining Resilience Series: Step 5 - Healthy Habit Formation
Teri, I'm glad you enjoyed the "Ten Tools for Trauma Survivors" post, but I did not write it, I was just sharing it here! The only attribution I could find on the blog where it was posted was "Abuse Survivor". I hope there was nothing about the post that led anyone to believe that I was taking credit for it. I would never want to do that. (I do have an anonymous blog, but this is not from that blog and I did not write it.)
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Re: Defining Resilience Series: Step 5 - Healthy Habit Formation
Oh my gosh! I totally looked for an author name on the blog, but did not see one. My bad for assuming it was yours. Thanks for clarifying.
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Re: How do you cope? Self-regulation "favorites" from our children! (video)
And it should come as no surprise that the children's ideas for how to cope with difficult and overwhelming emotions are spot on! Thanks so much for sharing this great resource here, Rev. Dr. Chris!
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Re: Resentment: A Trigger for CPTSD and Dysregulation
The idea of resentments as a cluster of fears is a revelation to me. I also thought that somehow there was strength and power and protection in resentment, in the same way I used to think that about anger. Once I let go of that attitude toward anger, I was able to feel the sadness that was often at the core of the anger. I've found a lot more strength and power in allowing myself to feel sadness than I ever did in masking it behind anger. Sounds like it's time to explore doing the same with...
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Re: Resources for ACEs Survivors
These are wonderful. Thank you for sharing, Glenn! To make sure community members can access your books as more recent posts push your post down the Blog Posts list, it would be excellent if you could add these 3 books to this Resources for Downloading folder . Or I can add them if you would prefer; please let me know!
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Re: Get Unstuck - Guided Journal & Online Circle
Such a great resource! - You and the journal. I need this now more than ever. Thank you for sharing!
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Re: The Importance of Connecting with Your Inner Child
Haley, I connected with your article in so many ways. I too felt that my opinion as a child did not matter and took that into adulthood,I too had to get sober ,finally at age 35 and through meetings,therapy,self help groups,seminars,courses and socialization with sober friends finally in my 40s I grew up emotionally and was able to mend relationships with my children,stand up for myself and mover forward socially and in business. I had put it all behind me,meaning the seemingly "bad things"...
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Re: The Surviving Spirit Newsletter October 2019
I hear you Sheri...there are some matters that still cause fear for me to share...trying to remember it is not our shame to have, but should be placed back on those who caused us the pain and shame...knowing it intellectually is one thing, the feelings are another matter in of themselves. Take care, Michael
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Re: World Premiere: Stress & Resilience: How Toxic Stress Affects Us, and What We Can Do About It [developingchild.harvard.edu]
Excellent video to introduce the concept of toxic stress to parents, caregivers, and really anyone new to the topic. Its tone is straightforward yet positive and hopeful. I will be sharing this on social media to help spread the word to the "uninitiated".
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Re: Sick and Stressed from CPTSD? Power Up Your SELF CARE (Resilience Series)
True self-care -- difficult to prioritize for anyone, but possibly more so for those with childhood PTSD, because of the tendency to minimize our experiences and to fall prey to depression and anxiety, which often make it harder to just plain function, much less pay attention to and heed our self-care needs. At the same time, self-care essential to healing from childhood PTSD. I don't think healing will happen without it. Thanks, Anna.
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Re: Childhood PTSD and Avoidance: Learning to Be OK in Groups (Resilience Series)
Bingo, again. It can take a lot out of a person to put themselves "out there", especially when, as you say, "we’re just working so hard to just deal." For introverts, the uphill battle is on an even steeper incline. But of course the irony here is that pushing ourselves to do what for so many reasons we resist is one of the very things that will help us become whole. Thank you, Anna, for sharing your blog posts and videos here.
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Re: Six Signs Your Brain is Dysregulated (and Ten Steps to Get Re-Regulated Again)
For many childhood trauma survivors, there's a certain something, a je ne sais quoi, that colors their daily living no matter how well-treated any other related diagnoses, such as anxiety or depression, are. Maybe that certain something, or one part of that certain something, is the brain dysregulation you describe here, Anna. It sure rings true to me, and I bet it does to others too. The do-anywhere methods for re-regulating are much appreciated, and I'll be testing some of them out soon...
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Re: To Help Heal Trauma, Talk Less, and Write More
Yes! There must be a mountain of research (not to mention anecdotal evidence) that writing is one of the most effective ways to process the emotion from traumatic events, not to mention everyday stresses and worries. While talk therapy has its place and its benefits, it's not always the best approach for recovering from trauma, for the reasons you cite. From personal experience, I'd caution anyone who's considering writing about a trauma they've experienced, especially if they have not yet...
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Re: Real Resilience is now a PODCAST
Crystal, So sorry to hear that you have pushed yourself to the point of secondary trauma and compassion fatigue, but that is what we sometimes do when driven by a passion to make a real difference in the lives of people who are in dire need of support. It's clear from the video that you are deeply committed to the work that you do and the women you do it for. I hope that as you continue to give so much of yourself to the women of your community with incarcerated loved ones that you will take...
