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February is the month of love. It's only fitting to talk about relationships built on trauma. For a long time, I have read about how many people feel hurt by toxic relationships. However, I wonder what exactly was unhealthy about the said relationships. If we were to have candid discussions around these things we would mention codependency, manipulation, gaslighting, savior mentality, and a lot more. The way we approach relationships, in general, has to shift. We deserve healthy, safe, and...

Restoring Well-being is about contributing to communities, and our purpose is to restore relationships. Restoring relationships is central to our purpose because we realize that there are many ways you can help others in your community and beyond. The more often you choose to immerse yourself in community, the better chance you have of developing meaningful friendships, personal challenges, and a sense of connection with people around you. This can also include strengthening bonds with...

The answer to fatigue is rest. It's so simple, but it's not always easy to implement. We've all been there: we're working hard and want to keep going… until we hit the wall and can't think straight anymore. We deal with this fatigue by pushing ourselves harder and harder, until eventually—boom! We're done. Or maybe we don't even realize how much time has passed while we are busy working. When we give our bodies time to recover and repair themselves, they can't keep up with all the damage...

Trauma makes us feel like we’re not capable of taking care of ourselves. It makes us think that people will take advantage of us or hurt us if they have power over us. This leads to an environment where we don’t feel safe or comfortable anywhere, even when we’re with people who love us. People who are raised in a culture based on trauma end up being disconnected from themselves and the world around them. What we can do is shift the culture of isolation and fear back into our communities. We...

We worry about what a child will become tomorrow, yet we forget he is someone today.” — Stacia Tauscher, dancer and artist Kenyan schools have been closed from November till late January. This means more parents will be spending time with their children. Luckily for us, it's time to highlight the beauty of children being individuals. We touched on the perils of lacking parental love, care, and nurturing. It affects a child's self-concept. It is important to note that children are not born...

How many women face gender-based violence each year? Globally , approximately one in three women experience rape or physical abuse at some point in their lifetime. The numbers are even more shocking when we look at children—nearly one in two girls and one in five boys worldwide experience sexual abuse before the age of 18. This global violence epidemic has lasting effects; survivors of gender-based violence are at an increased risk of long-term mental health problems including depression,...

Stress awareness week ended today. I have been thinking about the children given they often get forgotten. My main focus is on how the impact of the pandemic is still affecting them. Children get forgotten when the adults are busy surviving. When caregivers and parents are unavailable, children miss out on nurturing, which affects their development. They end up struggling with a sense of who they are It is fair to note that children are not born with a sense of self-concept. Self-concept...

As we close Mental Health month we would like to revisit this account of child abuse. Simply because this sensitive topic does not mean I will shy away from sharing it. In African society, child abuse is spoken of in hushed tones and outrightly ignored. Many have branded it as "disciplining ". This is further reinforced by that Bible verse that each parent seems to know. However, this is an account of how child abuse is seen in Sweden regarding the hypocrisy of imagining that it is not a...

Loneliness is not just being alone. It’s also feeling unwanted, isolated and disconnected from other people. Africa used to be community-oriented, but things started changing when the different countries were colonized. Suddenly, the people could not trust each other which led to a slow but sure crumble in our societal structure. As the years went by, rural-to-urban migration became a reality which slowly made up the current individualistic culture. Loneliness can worsen our mental health.

By now you know that stress is a constant in life. How we cope with it makes all the difference. There are both healthy and unhealthy ones. That is where things tend to go wrong and can lead to alcoholism. Stress is at the core of alcoholism. It is also at the core of unhealthy coping mechanisms. One of the most asked questions is, “ Can’t alcoholics just stop drinking? ” That always sounds like the first and only solution that comes to mind. Yet compassion should help us ask, “ What caused...

I have been thinking about how easy it is to focus on the mental illness side of the conversation and forget the wellness bit. That definitely inspired this blog post. I firmly believe in balance, and we are about to establish it together. Did you know that well-being is what is responsible for our happiness and sense of belonging? Did you also know that stress affects your wellbeing? I actually wrote about it here Berkley defines well-being as a sense of health and vitality that arises from...

I believe we should talk about money on a daily basis. That way we can all remember how it affects our wellness. More so, we should talk about it from a point of an abundance mindset. Which helps us know how to use money to meet our needs. We end up inheriting a scarcity mindset if our exposure to money was out of fear, scarcity or abject poverty. Each experience affects our perception of money differently. As we heal from trauma we have to also deal with financial wellness. Post traumatic...