Tagged With "Indigenous Wisdom"
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Death Is Stupid, and Other Lessons Children Teach Us About the Inevitable End (onbeing.org)
I've been struggling with how to talk with my daughter about what happened in Orlando. Another shooting. More death. Hate. She's heard the news. It's been discussed a bit at school too. But how do I talk to her as my own daughter, in between getting ready for school and dance? What can I say to her about homophobia or even what helps people recover? About what headlines and deaths grab our attention and which ones do not? I admit I'm at a loss. I don't have great words or wisdom or even a...
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Divorce During Christmas
My home was flooded just weeks before my divorce was final. The ocean spilled over the sea wall and headed down the street carrying telephone poles, patio furniture and boat parts. It was 2 a.m. and I was in my bedroom with the cat as my daughter was with her father on one of her first overnights. I was knee deep in despair. And fear. The ocean pooled around my stairs, foundations and car. Outside, the flood would take my blue Subaru, dog fence and air conditioner. Inside, it was thr heating...
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Echo Training and Certification Course
In the fall, Echo will be rolling out the new Training & Certification Course (TCC) for selected candidates who want to become certified in the Echo trauma-informed, nonviolent parenting curriculum. This is the first time Echo will be offering the certification course since 2016. We've been spending the intervening time systematically revising the old parenting curriculum, bringing it up-to-date with the trauma and resilience information that we are already teaching in the parenting...
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Re: Perspective of an adopted Son!
Thanks sharing this Matt: You wrote: "This works the same for divorce. Healthy people don't hurt or abandon their children, so what happened to my parents to cause them to abandon me at birth?" Can I ask how you got to this wisdom and perspective? For me, a kid abandoned by one parent, I was just mad for a long time. My compassion and understanding about intergenerational trauma is growing. I still have a range of feelings but hurt/mad isn't the ALL of it. Thanks again for posting here! Cissy
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Re: Parenting after ACEs: Small Changes & Huge Differences (www.healwritenow.com)
Bravo and thank you, Cissy, for this wonderful piece. So much wisdom being offered through your vulnerability and amazing writing. The whole concept of changing things changes things - YES. And teaching your daughter to not just listen to but communicate with her body - brilliant. And saying trauma therapy should start with attachment - critical advice for sure. Every time I read your writing - I want more! Here's to lots of stay-cations for you. Warm Regards, Donna
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Re: How It Feels & How We Heal: Parenting with ACEs Chat Quotes (You Tube, Database, PDFs, Links)
Thank you Lisa and thank you for sharing your words, wisdom and heart IN the chat series, and IN GENERAL!!! Are you going to be at the ACEs Conference (said hopefully)? Cis
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Re: How It Feels & How We Heal: Parenting with ACEs Chat Quotes (You Tube, Database, PDFs, Links)
Hi Cissy - I so wish I were going to be there (and I'd love to meet you in person!). Unfortunately, I'm already committed to giving two presentations at Ft. Irwin during that time. I look forward to hearing all about it. Lisa
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Re: Happy Monday
Lisa and Donna: It's awesome when our kids guide us with their wisdom, isn't it? I'm glad it spread some joy. That made my daughter happy as well. Cissy
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A Better Normal, Community Discussion, Fri., June 5th at 3p.m. EST., on The Power of Discord with Claudia Gold, MD, and Ed Tronick, Ph.D.
Please join us on Friday, June 5th for "A Better Normal’ community discussion with @Ed Tronick , Ph.D., and @Claudia Gold , MD. They will be discussing the work in their new book The Power of Discord, Why the Ups and Downs of Relationships are the Secret to Building Intimacy, Resilience, and Trust , which they co-wrote (details about the authors and the book below). This discussion will be hosted by @Cissy White (ACEs Connection Staff) who is the Parenting with ACEs Community Manager and...
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Community as Medicine: Generating Resilience (and Funding!) via Clinic-Community Integration 2.0
Healthcare professionals are exhausted. And it doesn’t have to be this way. I’m a psychologist by training, and I study Intentional Community. Quite literally, community shaped by design, rather than by default or by drift. My experience is that in the fields of mental health and primary care, providers are asked, and heroically trying, to meet unmeetable needs – to single-handedly generate and deliver enough care, resources, support, and (yes) even love – to meet the needs of our patients...
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The Traumatic Impact of Racism on Young People and How to Talk About It [Dr. Kenneth Ginsburg]
Dr. Kenneth Ginsburg (Keynote speaker from the recent Creating a Resilient Community Conference) shared the excerpt from his book Reaching Teens titled The Traumatic Impact of Racism on Young People and How to Talk About It. This is a valuable resource for anyone interacting with youth and we are providing the excerpt as an attachment here for you to read and share. Also, Dr. Ginsburg will be coming back to our community (virtually) and you’ll be invited to his workshop. Look out for the...
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FAMILY & CHARACTER Home Study Activities (MyVocabulary.com)
Choose from 3 different FAMILY focused areas for vocabulary word resources and puzzles: (1) Character Education and Leadership; (2) Family Word Lists; (3) Specific Family Word Lists (Father's Day, Mother's Day, Grandparent's Day etc.) with interactive puzzles. 1. Character Education and Leadership theme LINK example - 18 words in Character & Leadership Definition Match, Fill-in-Blanks, True or False, Word Search, Crossword Character & Leadership multiple puzzles - and - Character...
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Wednesday Meditations (www.rickhanson.net)
@Gail Kennedy (ACEs Connection Staff) let me know about these weekly meditations because she knows I'm a fan of Rick Hanson. If you'd like to try some free meditations followed by Q&A discussion you can find out more below (or here). The copy is from the Rick Hanson e-newsletter.
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Freedom From Trauma – Powerful & Profound Practices To Heal Trauma & Consciously Create The Body, Mind, Spirit You Truly Desire
We are living in complicated and stressful times. What needs to be healed seems more palpable than ever. It feels like the call to release what no longer serves has never been louder and we are feeling that tug at our core. While the founder of The League of Extraordinary People, Alfred White, has been gaining more clarity everyday on this, he was invited to be part of an event, more like a movement, to help others find freedom from what has been holding them back. It is a free, online...
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VIDEO TALK: How to Stop Button Pushing: Exit and Wait
Since it’s difficult to act calmly and in control if you are angry or frustrated, the two most important four-letter words to remember are exit and wait. Exiting a heated confrontation before you lose your cool and waiting until you are calmer to enforce the consequence shows great wisdom on your part and it can instantly change your child’s disrespect and other problem behaviors for the better. Visit Surviving Family Trauma on Facebook to watch the video from Dr. Scott Sells, Founder of the...
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Thoughts, a Song & a Book to Share
Thoughts - “Anything that’s human is mentionable, and anything that is mentionable can be more manageable. When we can talk about our feelings, they become less overwhelming, less upsetting, and less scary. The people we trust with that important talk can help us know that we are not alone.” - Fred Rogers “ Do your little bit of good where you are; it’s those little bits of good put together that overwhelm the world.” - Desmond Tutu “ Everything that happens to you is a lesson. Everyone you...
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Hello from your new Community Manager, Natalie Audage
Dear Parenting with PACEs Community, I am so honored to be your new Parenting with PACEs Community Manager. I want to start by thanking Cissy White, the previous Community Manager, for her vision, work, passion and compassion, and all of the wisdom she has brought to this community. Although I’ve only worked with her on a few projects, I know just how much love and light and truth she brings to everything she does. I am ever so grateful to her, and I’m thrilled that she plans to still be a...
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The Reparent Yourself Masterclass
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The Decision that Changed My Life
Four years ago, I decided to start a conversation about the long term impact of childhood abuse. More specifically, about what happens when those abused children grow up and have children of their own. When I had become a parent, I went looking for books on this topic, and I didn’t find anything. But I knew I couldn’t be the only one who was dealing with this. And once I found one other person who was willing to write about this, I said, let’s collect these stories. The stories of these...
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Join Special Guest Father Paul Abernathy for a Zoom Discussion on March 16th, at 7p.m. EST to discuss the Whole People Documentary Series and Trauma-Informed Community Development
On behalf of ACEs Connection , the CTIPP (The Campaign for Trauma -Informed Policy & Practice), and the Relentless School Nurse , we want to invite you to the streaming of parts 4 and 5 of the Whole People documentary series on the weekend o f M arch 12th through March 14th, 2021. We will stream both parts on ACEs Connection in the Transforming Trauma with ACEs Sciences Film Festival community. The documentary viewing will be followed by a discussion with special guest, Father Paul...
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“What Happened to You?” by Bruce Perry and Oprah Winfrey: a book that resonates with us in the PACEs world
What do PACEs Connection and “What Happened to You?”, the new book by Oprah Winfrey and Bruce Perry, have in common? Almost everything. That’s my conclusion after I finished listening to the book on Audible and re-reading parts of it on Kindle. In the book, Winfrey, a w orld-class connector, journalist, entertainer, author, thought leader, actor, and philanthropist, teams up with her longtime friend Perry, a child psychiatrist, neuroscientist and principal of the neurosequential model of...
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The Surviving Spirit Newsletter October 2021
Healing the Heart Through the Creative Arts, Education & Advocacy Hope, Healing & Help for Trauma, Abuse & Mental Health “ Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars”. Kahlil Gibran The Surviving Spirit Newsletter October 2021 “Don't Quit” by John Whittier When things go wrong as they sometimes will, When the road you're trudging seems all uphill, When the funds are low and the debts are high And you want to smile, but you...
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Wrestling Ghosts & Parenting with ACEs Zoom Discussion Link & Chat Notes
On June 15th, 2021 we recorded the last discussion of the Transform Trauma with ACEs Science Film Festival series. Our special guest was the Wrestling Ghosts documentary producer and director, Ana Joanes, who spoke about the film and parenting with ACEs. Here is our Zoom discussion which was recorded and uploaded to YouTube. Resources Shared via Chat: CTIPP (The Campaign for Trauma-Informed Policy & Practice) First-Person Narratives PACEs Connection Parenting with ACEs Community on PACEs...
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Father Paul Abernathy: Video Recording, Quotes, Chat Resources & Personal Note
On Tuesday, March 16th, 2021, the Transform Trauma with ACEs Science Film Festival community co-hosted a discussion with Father Paul Abernathy, who founded the Neighborhood Resilience Project and created the Trauma-Informed Community Development (TICD) framework. Please find the Zoom video recording below, followed by select quotes, as well as resources shared in the chat during the event. Recording of Father Paul Abernathy Zoom Appearance on March 16th, 2021 Select Quotes by Father Paul...
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A Strengths-Based Approach Brings HOPE to ACEs
The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) released its first in a series of reports called “Snapshots” after polling 3,000+ parents about their experiences during the pandemic. Surprisingly, while many of the findings were concerning, most people reported a deepening relationship with their children despite the stress and tension they were experiencing.
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A Better Normal: Practicing Resilience | Witnessing Ourselves: Grief & Self-Care in Times of COVID-19 Transition
Please join us for our next A Better Normal: Practicing Resilience episode, a live Zoom event! In A Better Normal we imagine and create a PACEs science-informed world together. In Practicing Resilience we fill up our own cups with healing practices for ourselves. Witnessing Ourselves: Grief & Self-Care in Times of COVID-19 Transition Thursday, June 17th, 2021 | Noon to 1pm PDT Live on Zoom | Hosted by Gail Kennedy and Lara Kain Guest: Sandra J. Valdes-Lopez, MDiv, CA, TCTSY-F, RYT...
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How Grateful Are You?
November is a month of Thanksgiving and it’s a time to literally “give thanks” for the bounty in our life. We rejoice in the major highlights but in reality it’s the little micro-moments of joy that give us the strength to carry on. These precious, seemingly insignificant moments can be stored as a resource for us to draw on when times are tough. Life isn’t easy, and this is true for all of us. The immutable value we focus on in the Choose Love Movement is love, but there is another one that...
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Resources that Center Indigenous Perspectives from EmbraceRace
From the EmbraceRace newsletter: The "First Thanksgiving" myth is part of centuries-long U.S. settler-colonial efforts to disappear Indigenous peoples and perspectives - both contemporary and historical. Countering those forces with children must be ongoing and year-round for Indigenous and non-Indigenous families. (Resources to help you do that follow.) At the same time, the "Thanksgiving" holiday itself is an opportunity for those of us in the lives of children to counter the "work" of the...
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The Loss of Cultural Identity and Neurological Dysregulation
Pre-COVID, I was invited to speak at a conference in Flagstaff, Arizona. During lunch the organizers brought dancers from the Apache tribe to perform. What we witnessed was so powerful and moving, that it prompted me to inquire about the spiritual significance of the songs and dance. They explained to me that after going to war, the warriors returned to their land and were gathered together to perform that particular dance and song. As a tribal African woman, it all made perfect sense. As...
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2022 Called to Care RFP – Deadline to submit Sept. 19th
We are pleased to announce the 2022 Called to Care Summit has an open Request for Proposals. Since 2019, The Called to Care Summit has been designed by the community for the community. The 3rd Annual Summit is no different. This year’s Summit is a family-focused event centered on building community capacity to heal; highlighting families and their communities. Presentations will generate innovative ideas and share transformative wisdom and positive actions that address trauma, healing, and...
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How to Communicate Better and Fight Less With Your Kids [greatergood.berkeley.edu]
By Diana Divecha, Greater Good Magazine, October 24, 2022 A new book explains how to feel secure in your parenting decisions so you can be firm but loving with your kids. Home is where we initially learn how to be in the world, and even the smallest interactions between parents and children can have an outsized impact, say Sheri Glucoft Wong, Bay Area family therapist, and Olaf Jorgenson, Silicon Valley private school head. Those little everyday moments together are our opportunities to...
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"Braiding Sweetgrass" with kids (EmbraceRace)
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Knowing Better
In 2007, at the start of my son’s fourth grade year, the teacher who I will call Ms. L, gave the class an assignment. They were to write letters to their “future selves” outlining the things they envisioned and hoped for over the course of the coming year. Ms. L. would give the letters back to the children at the end of the year so they could see how their “future selves” aligned with the vision they held at the start of the year. Though my son, ten at the time, showed no outward signs of...
