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In 2007, at the start of my son’s fourth grade year, the teacher who I will call Ms. L, gave the class an assignment. They were to write letters to their “future selves” outlining the things they envisioned and hoped for over the course of the coming year. Ms. L. would give the letters back to the children at the end of the year so they could see how their “future selves” aligned with the vision they held at the start of the year. Though my son, ten at the time, showed no outward signs of...

Mom creates 'how to be a person' camp for her kids that teaches real life skills all summer (upworthy.com)

@our.mama.guide/ Instagram To read more of Heather Wake's article, please click here. Kaitlyn Rowe , mom of four and content creator in Utah, gave her kiddos a list of super basic, but very important life skills to learn at home throughout summer, in what she calls “ How To Be A Person” camp. The difficulty level of each task would be age dependent. Rowe’s 3-year-old son learned things like making the bed, safely using scissors and glue, introducing himself to a new friend and organizing his...

PACEs Research Corner — May 2023, Part 2

[Editor's note: Dr. Harise Stein at Stanford University edits a web site — abuseresearch.info — that focuses on the effects of abuse, and includes research articles on PACEs. Every month, she posts the summaries of the abstracts and links to research articles that address only ACEs, PCEs and PACEs. Thank you, Harise!! — Rafael Maravilla] Domestic Violence – Effects on Children Makris G, Eleftheriades A, Pervanidou P. Early Life Stress, Hormones, and Neurodevelopmental Disorders. Horm Res...

“Caring for our own” theme emerges at May Meeting of North Carolina Chief Justice’s Task Force on ACEs-Informed Courts

Ben David, co-chair of the North Carolina Chief Justice's Task Force on ACEs-Informed Courts, shares plans to sustain the work done during the two-year term of the Task Force, to "care for our own" speaking of North Carolina's children, youth, families, communities, victims of crimes, members of law enforcement, the judiciary and court officers and staffers. He also shared Chief Justice Paul Newby's hopes of "getting ACEs-informed courts" into the culture, and said a national conference for...

“Going Way Upstream” - Panelists at Resilient Pender County Conference report on current trauma prevention and healing efforts; look to future

Amy Read of Coastal Horizons introduces the panel following a viewing of "Resilience: The Biology of Stress, The Science of Hope", at the Pender Resiliency Task Force Mini Conference Thursday, June 8 ,at Heide Trask High School in Rocky Point. A "dream team" of subject-matter expert panelists (L-R) were Ryan Estes of Coastal Horizons, Ben David, district attorney for Pender and New Hanover counties, Judge J. H. Corpening, district court judge for New Hanover and Pender counties, Taylor...

When should you let your kid quit? (kqed.org)

(iStock/Rudzhan Nagiev) To read more of Linda Flanagan's article, please click here. Annie Duke is a retired professional poker player and an expert on decision making, and she has some thoughts. In her new book, Quit: The Power of Knowing When to Walk Away , Duke explores our hangups about quitting and debunks the idea that blind allegiance to a particular course of action is heroic or wise. Figuring out when to give up one pursuit and take on another is an essential but neglected skill...

Participants Needed for a New Social Media Campaign Centering & Celebrating Diverse 2SLGBTQIA+ Family Stories (National Training & Technical Assistance Center)

Participants Needed for a New Social Media Campaign Centering & Celebrating Diverse 2SLGBTQIA+ Family Stories We want to center and celebrate the stories of diverse families around the nation. This social media campaign features 2SLGBTQIA+ families of all kinds: queer and trans parents, queer and trans kids, families of choice, family of origin, drag family - if there is love and care, you are welcome here! Share your thoughts on the word "family" to be featured in the campaign. Campaign...

Sibling Abuse: Types, Signs, & Prevention (choosingtherapy.com)

To read more of Lena Suarez-Angelino's article, please click here. Sibling abuse typically takes place between blood relatives, or step-siblings close to each other in age. Usually, the victim and the abuser live under the same roof, making it even more difficult to recognize, report or manage. Like other forms of abuse, it is not limited to physical, emotional, or sexual abuse. What Is Sibling Abuse? Sibling abuse, also referred to as sibling bullying, or ‘forgotten abuse’ is the physical,...

'Heaven's receptionist' is on TikTok and she's helping people cope with loss in a beautiful way (upworthy.com)

@taryntino21/ TikTok What started off as pure comedy became something else altogether. To read more of Heather Wake's article, please click here. Taryn Delanie Smith might have won the title of Miss New York in 2022, but these days she is repping her hometown in a whole new way. Over on TikTok , Smith plays Denise, a gum-chewing, white bathrobe-wearing receptionist ushering folks to the pearly gates—all with a quintessential New York accent and nonchalance. As you can probably imagine, most...

Psychologist Enrique Echeburúa: ‘People who die by suicide want to stop suffering, not to stop living’ (msn.com)

Enrique Echeburúa at his office, in San Sebastián, Spain. © Javier Hernandez Juantegui (EL PAÍS) To read more of Daniel Mediavilla's article, please click here. Enrique Echeburúa (San Sebastian, Spain, 72 years old), Professor Emeritus of Clinical Psychology at the University of the Basque Country (UPV/EHU), says that when a suicide occurs, there are other victims beyond the deceased, and they do not receive adequate support. “The first thing [we need to do] is make it easier for the family...

Want to create a stronger bond with your kids? First relinquish control (npr.org)

Malte Mueller/Getty Images/fStop To read more of Andee Tagle's article, please click here. It may sound counterintuitive, but if you want to take charge as a parent, stop trying to control your child, says psychologist and author Shefali Tsabary . Her book, The Parenting Map , outlines how to create conscious parent-child relationships by focusing on the reactions you have to your child's behavior rather than the behavior itself. "We keep expecting the child to change and keep trying to...

4 Ways Outdoor Play Helps Develop Resilience In Children

Outdoor play is key to the health and well-being of children. Getting muddy and staying out till sunset is great for children’s development and can help them refine their motor coordination skills. Kids who play outdoors have improved cognitive skills, too. A recent systematic review found that children who have regular access to green spaces show improved “mental well-being, overall health, and cognitive development.” Children who play outside also had better self-discipline and showed...

Life-saving or stigmatizing? Parents wrestle with obesity treatment options for kids (npr.org)

Image: Janice Chang for NPR To read more of Yuki Noguchi's article, please click here. Two mothers — Jen McLellan in Albuquerque, N.M., and Grace, of Bethesda, Md. — haven't met, but they share a common childhood trauma: Both came of age in the 1980s and '90s feeling burdened by shame and stigma over their body size. Both tried every known diet plan and pill available at the time, only to have doctor after doctor admonish them to restrict calories and exercise still more. Since then,...

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