Note from Mai: This article really got me thinking, as the parent of a preschooler. In work and adult learning spaces, vague group agreements like "be kind" and "respect others" have always struck me as hollow. But I haven't considered the damage those simple rules can have in classrooms, with young children. I really appreciate Bret Turner's deeper exploration of this and hope everyone working with kids (parents, teachers, afterschool program providers, etc.) will apply some of his ideas.