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Hello

We can learn from our children

Sadly, the children we need to listen to

The ones who can teach us

The ones who know what they need from us

Are the ones who never come forward to tell their stories

To policymakers

I have been asked to give guidance to policymakers

I already got ideas

However

I thought it may be a great time to ask others for their ideas

I am sure there have been posts made

I do not know how to find them

So please share your ideas with me

And in doing so,

You share your ideas with all of us

so our children can be active participants in transformational change

Our children need to have the opportunity to be seen and heard

Now and into the future

I want to maximise their opportunity to do so

My request extends to all children out there

Thank you in advance

Adriana from New Zealand

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I have supported several young adults who have experienced extensive trauma. One experienced labor trafficking.   I am finding that first we need to educate our children on what trauma is, and how it affects them.  We aren't there yet, at least in Missouri (and that goes for people with disabilities as well).  Then, I find it takes at least five years for them to find their own voices to be able to share what happened to them, if ever outside of a trusted relationship.  They need to be safe before they can do that (and of course their definition of safe is  not mine).   Many give me permission to share their stories in the mean time as they want them told, they just can't do it yet.   I do it only with permission, and using a pseudonym.   A podcast using a pseudonym would let them speak in a safe environment while remaining anonymous.   I am looking at this too, as people want lived experience.  But, for anyone who has experienced trauma having to tell the story over and over re-traumatizes them.  Advocacy can be done without the person sharing details in many situations.

Last edited by Sue Shaw

I appreciate and understand your desire for those who have experienced trauma to have a voice, but research shows that doesn’t need to entail telling details of past trauma. Best practice strongly suggests that sharing personal stories of traumaβ€”resolved or unresolved β€”has shown to re-traumatize both the teller and the audience. The telling of and listening to stories happens best in trusted relationships, including therapeutic relationships, where one would not be at risk of exploitation.  We know the stories, we know the impact of trauma, we know how trauma can be healedβ€”only in the context of trusting relationships.  We know what we need to do policy-wise to address trauma and we know what to do to create a path to healing.  We deliver Trust Based Relational Intervention (TBRI) the international model of care developed at the Karyn Purvis Institute of Child Development at Texas Christian University that has amazing results in helping folks heal. Through sharing concepts from the neurobiology of attachment, healthy child development,  and the principles of Connection, Empowering and Correcting, and practicing strategies to build trusting relationships, participants can intake these concepts and strategies in an emotionally safe setting.  Learning healthy boundaries and gaining a voice, but not needing to share details you may not want to is healing.

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