Dr Nadine Burke-Harris is a well known TEDtalk presenter that promotes a great formula for starting the healing process: sleep, nutrition, exercise, mindfulness, mental health and healthy relationships.
Granted those items are a lot to get right all at one time and what 'right' looks like will vary from person to person. Childhood challenges including possible dual diagnoses, often does requires long term work focusing on developing skills.
The recovery community (AA, NA, etc) is structured around helping participates learn how to build healthy, supportive, two-way relationships.
Good, productive therapy work sucks. It is not fun dealing with stuff that hurts especially when you're the one having to do all the work of skill building. ACE treatment should include trauma sensitivity that also develops self-care routines when your emotions are running high.
Congratulate yourself on feeding the positive by reaching out!