Maybe Larry, there needs to be a different term/language for some other than resilience... This seems to be an ongoing topic for those who have had a somewhat hefty amount of trauma.
There can be a huge gap between what the mainstream perceives as trauma, resilience, etc that makes those substantially affected, cringe. Such as the overuse of the terms depressed, narcissistic, paranoid as they're bandied about in every day use now. Yet to know someone who is truly any of those is to not so casually use them. Eg when I'm talking about a narcissist, I'm talking full spectrum, who not only goes on about themselves, but desires to harm others, scenario...
And have you repeatedly read that those from severe trauma have NO empathy?!! When in fact the opposite can be true - too much! Which mainstream don't get either. I would guess that many would be introverted, but not necessarily... I believe genetics plays a part in this and having your personality curbed, shall we say, means that some of your latent characteristics may not have seen fruition or have developed in different ways. Who knows, cos you are what you are, now!
Apologies, Jennifer, this is slightly off topic. Pertinent maybe, but not relevant to what you seek.