http://lynnenamka.com/ Lynne Namka is a psychologist in Tucson Arizona who shares a wealth of free resources for parents, children and professionals alike on her website. I've used her free printables with clients, staff and friends for over 10 years. I appreciate her down-to-earth approach.
Closer to home, I've found codependent recovery work (the complete 12 steps with a good sponsor) and the practice of boundaries to be most helpful. When we realize we cannot change others, we 're free to love them, forgive, have patience and make healthier choices about how we engage in relationships. The 12 steps teach emotional intelligence, a key ingredient to resilience building, and help us restore or strengthen serenity in our own lives. Clearly I'm a huge fan. Melody Beattie is a trusted and beloved author on the subject; she speaks from her own growth through lived experiences as well as the lived experiences of others. Her books might be a helpful place for anyone to begin building trauma-informed skills for healthier relationships.-e