I would tell my children when they were upset to "Reelaaaax".
They know the science. I finally put it together for myself in relation to WNY Trauma Initiative. They are Trauma Informed Care (There is a reason). Me, I'm ACEs in your Faces. I ask for a score on those difficult questions.
Just recently I had a young female in her first stress seizure (I like to call them Trauma Seizures). Started smoking at 16 and prescribed anxiety meds by 17. According to the mother, No ACE. I know it's bull shit. But I have to be nice, so I give the mother one of my hand outs. At the emergency room I told the intake nurse that the mother stated there was no adverse childhood trauma. Now I used the term to get a response from the nurse. A look of curiosity was in her eyes but she went in her default setting. Googled drug side effects of meds my patient is taking and guess what. Seizures are one of them. If you are taking meds for anxiety and the cause is not treated, don't you think seizures might be from ACE. So there is a long way to go. Keep learning what people are doing. Try not to look like a bull in a china shop. Because that phrase belongs to me.