This discussion strikes a nerve with me.
I have a high ACE score (8), but also a high resiliency score, according to the Resiliency Questionnaire quoted in the "Got Your ACE Score" article at this link: http://acestoohigh.com/got-your-ace-score/
While I respect the work that went into the questionnaire, and I love the idea of resiliency, my score has always nagged at me ... Felt like just another aspect of "What is wrong with me??" With such a high resiliency score, why then had I sunk so deeply into the depression pit?
WHY, then, if I had so many protective factors going for me did I still have to spend thousands and thousands of dollars in therapy including EMDR, (on and off for more than 20 years), and untold hours reading self-help books, researching brain science, etc., and doing yoga, meditation, spiritual healing, and anything else I could think of (except drugs, thank goodness) to feel better?
To me, it feels like saying if you have a high resiliency score, then your ACEs were somehow negated, and they don't count. That's certainly not true for me. My ACEs continue to affect me, and while I've learned to manage them, their effects still rear their ugly heads, and that's when I catch myself ... Stop. Breathe. Consciously, consciously, mindfully ... PAUSE. Regroup. And don't pass this history on to my daughter.
For me, the thing to do is to be resilient now - to put all of the protective factors into my life now, i.e., love, support, surrounding myself with healthy people, etc.
T