Alicia, thank you for the alternative questionnaire, and Tina, I agree with you about the resiliency info needing to be in the present moment.
You may know that I'm an attorney (retired), parent educator (www.txparent.com), and CASA volunteer for abused and neglected children in Austin Texas. Presently I am writing a basic parenting course series (Protective Parenting and ACE Awareness: Effects of Household Dysfunction on the Brain) designed especially for teenage and young parents, and parent-to-be.
In my work, I've seen first-hand that so many parents have NO IDEA what their actions (or neglect) are doing to their children's very brains -- and their offspring's chances for a happy life in general. From my view, the parents seem to believe 2 things: 1) the children are born already knowing right from wrong, no teaching is needed, and if a child cries or misbehaves, that misbehavior is PURPOSEFULLY defiant to annoy the parent, and it deserves ranting and punishment; 2) the household environment (yelling, violence, chaos, no food, sex abuse, alcoholic rages, etc.) has NO EFFECT on the children ... I mean, obviously the children are fine ... See? still so sweet, and cute, and bouncy ... they still have 2 eyes, 2 arms, 2 legs, so what's the problem ??! [Obviously this not true. I am saying it to make a point - some parents have a shocking lack of insight.]
To me, education is the only real answer.
And for me, the place to start is with the teen and very young parents. Yes, many of them come from abusive backgrounds themselves. And in so many instances, without some guidance, their babies and children may be be headed for the child welfare system where they can be further traumatized, as I have personally seen.
Some parents won't hear, but I've also seen so many people who do want to learn. They do want to heal themselves and make things better for themselves and their children. I believe that, like me, they will be liberated by the ACE info, which has clearly explained what happened to me. Yes, I will give them the ACE info and ACE questionnaire wrapped in a compassionate way, but not the resiliency questionnaire, I don't think. Or maybe I will call it something else, such as "Building My Family" ... I get weary of trying to explain the term "resiliency" is to them, anyway. "Building" and "eliminating dysfunction" are more readily grasped, I think ..
The idea is to take my workshop to schools, churches, and community groups that are helping teenage parents, young parents, and parents-to-be. When I get farther along in writing, I can reach out to you for your input, if that's ok. thanks - Joan