Great question and focus, Katie. I don't know if this is helpful or not, but in some of the critical incident management and residual effect conversations and readings I do, it's clear that we have survived and often our child-that-we-were developed ingenuous solutions that can be pointed out, validated, reinforced. (Often ACEs don't carry with them this realization, many times quite the opposite, so it's a hopeful, helpful perspective to discuss.) The next thing I'd add is that open-ended questions that allow them to talk about the solutions they found and how they view themselves are helpful departure points for this resilience conversation you want to have. Last but not least, finding out what helps them stretch their current window/threshold of tolerance, and co-investigating strategies for that in advance of the next activation, all lead down the road to resilience. Hope that helps in some way for the good work you're doing.