We recently attended a training that focused on resiliency. I was struck by the power of a simple exercise the trainer used. They talked about ACES (enough so that the audience could quickly figure out what # they had) and then had the group look at the attached Resiliency graphic and circle those components that applied to them. Then they asked the group to discuss what it felt like to do that exercise and what they thought about as a result. The table discussions were fascinating. People then shared (publicly!) how through this simple exercise they realized where/why/how they had survived/thrived... how they themselves (or helping others) could identify additional ways to find/nurture resiliency.
I don't know how it would work in a 1on1 setting but I'd be very curious. This is a great question you've posted and I'm following.