Brenda, I totally understand. I was told years before about the "identified patient." It's an old psychology term for the one person in the family who is the healthiest amidst the dysfunction and denial of the rest of the family. They are the one who seeks help. I'm sorry you are all alone in your family. It IS devastating. Time certainly does not heal all wounds. Not in such a sick group/family climate. And then we as survivors sometimes reach out to our community for help or in the role of an advocate and get retraumatized, yet again. It's not a good scene to put it mildly. Take breaks from the "fight" when you can to recharge your battery and try and establish a support system. Just please know you are not alone.