PS Think I need to qualify (pity it's too hard to quantify).
To me the messages one receives from abuse and neglect are:
Sexual abuse - dirty, defiled, sexualised
Emotional abuse - bad, unworthy, suspect
Neglect - invisible, non-viable, irrelevant
Or a combo of two or all three!
Apparently (someone can correct me on this quite easily probably) neglect is now at the top.