Dear Cis,
I'm glad you described these books because to be honest (I know some of you will have a little trouble understanding my problem) I seemed to be having difficulty wrapping my head around what folks meant by "attachment". Now that you described it that seemed to encapsulate my problem, namely that my late mother in her muddled concepts seemed to actually be PROUD that nothing like "bonding" was going on under her roof!! (This from someone who "professed" to be a loyal disciple of Dr. Spock's baby book too - of course her massive ego prevented her from seeing the huge illogic at the center of all this...) I mean it doesn't surprise me that I'm still putting this all together but I wonder how many more of these world-upending notions about how I was raised are out there for me to discover? (I suppose you can't "repair" attachment if none existed in the first place? Another reason the therapists will reject me for treatment? Holy cow!) Anyway thanks for the help.
Jeff