While I understand the perspective that blaming is a part of this conversation, as is the implied "us" and "them," Adverse Childhood Experiences occurred. They did happen. The abuse, neglect, isolation, etc. was felt deeply by someone. Does identifying that an individual took these actions mean you are blaming them? It acknowledges the responsibility of those involved, and certainly they should be held accountable.
When a person is raped, it is valid to acknowledge they have been violated and hurt, emotionally and physically, by another person or persons. And when such an event happens to a child or young person, we know that can be especially damaging. To suggest that something is wrong with the individual because they "blame" the assailant would be absurd. While research does and should continue into the ACE paradigm, acknowledging these traumatic events/situations/environments/ can empower those who live through them.