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Re: The Healing Place Podcast - Shenandoah Chefalo: Garbage Bag Suitcase
Sorry for the delay in responding . . . I was enjoying a 9 day break at the beach on the Carolina coast! I, too, find it inspirational and heartwarming to know so many are using their triumph over trauma to guide others. A beautiful testament to becoming empowered. Thanks for listening in to the show and offering feedback. Makes my heart smile! Peace, Teri
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Re: The Healing Place Podcast - Louise Godbold: Echo
Thank you, thank you! I feel blessed to have this beautiful community at ACEs Connection where I have crossed paths with so many incredible souls doing healing work in the world. I continue to be amazed by their wisdom, determination, and brilliance. Truly. I, too, have great hope for a trauma sensitive world. Peace, Teri
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Re: How to Be Kinder to Yourself (3-minutes Greater Good Science Center)
Love this! Simple yet profound. Sharing away on The Healing Place Podcast sites.
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Re: Toxic Childhood? 5 Spiritual Exercises to Heal the Soul [psychologytoday.com]
Hi Laura, Thanks for sharing this very important article! The mother-daughter relationship is complex, and in many cases informed by the mother's unmet needs, hopes, and aspirations. The unresolved trauma and suffering experienced by a parent will, invariably, shape and inform the trajectory of a child's life. This article allows us to consider, what many might see, as the unthinkable...a mother who does not or cannot provide the love and support that many associate with mother role. I think...
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Re: Toxic Childhood? 5 Spiritual Exercises to Heal the Soul [psychologytoday.com]
Hi, Tosca, Yes, it's an uncomfortable topic for many and it often evokes denial in those who don't wish to face the reality that in many cases, a mother's unmet needs, unaddressed trauma, mental health issues, or other difficulties directly impact her children and often in turn traumatize them. It's taboo in our society (and I'm guessing in many other societies) to view or discuss mothers in any but the most flattering--even idealistic--light. We're not doing anyone any favors or supporting...
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Re: Self Soothing Strategies for Parents and Kids
Joyelle, these are great ideas. I love that they are the sorts of things that parents and children can do either together OR alone, especially once the parents have taught the children these strategies and modeled their use. It's so helpful to recognize that for trauma survivors, often when they are feeling stressed it's caused by or exacerbated by an ingrained reaction originating in early trauma, and the key to overcoming that is in the body. Thank you for sharing these ideas here (I was...
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Re: What’s Trauma-Sensitive Mindfulness? [Mindful Leader]
GREAT article. Love this: " At the same time, I believe we can do better. Mindfulness doesn’t need to work for everyone, but I’m convinced that certain modifications can help support survivors—at the very least ensuring that they are not re-traumatizing themselves in practice. For those of us offering mindfulness in workplaces, or other institutions, this is a competency we can develop to help make us more effective." I really believe this isn't done enough (in yoga classes, schools etc.
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Re: Put down the self-help books. Resilience is not a DIY endeavour (theglobeandmail.com)
Thanks, Laura, this is so true in my case. Now that my son is an adult and is supporting me, I am healing at a phenomenal rate. Love and support is the healing balm. But then if we had that in our childhoods, there wouldn't be any mental illness - at least not at the level, we have now.
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Re: Put down the self-help books. Resilience is not a DIY endeavour (theglobeandmail.com)
Cheryl, I'm so happy to hear that your son is giving you the support you've needed for so long. I also believe that childhood trauma is the cause of most if not all mental illness -- and that's ANOTHER idea that is getting a lot of press lately. It seems the tide is turning favorably. Let us brace ourselves for the inevitable backlash .
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Re: Young People are Using Musical Theater to Heal Their Trauma — and it's Working [nationswell.com]
I love this. Sharing with a friend whose passion is the arts. #hopeforhealing
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Re: Transforming Trauma: Healing Through Connecting with Animals [psychologytoday.com]
I can tell you from a therapy-dog team handler, Sammie (our labradoodle) was born to help humans (particularly children) heal. She knows immediately, upon entering a room, who needs her love the most. She will snuggle into a child and not want to leave their side until their tears have dried and a smile lights up their face. And when I see she is beginning to exhibit signs of stress (as alluded to in the article), I give her a break (as specified by our Pet Partner guidelines, but also...
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Re: Mindfulness Stress Reduction Techniques for Healing
Love this!!!! Great reminders, Jen. I stopped watching negative news years ago. And being on my summer Facebook hiatus with all its political negativity has been wonderful for my peace of mind. Thanks for sharing. I'll be sure to share it on the podcast social media pages, too. Peace, Teri
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Re: To Heal CPTSD, Do You Need to Love Yourself?
I never thought of it this way before, but your take on the whole self-love thing is profound, and clearly comes from a place of experience. I really like what you have to say about how these steps will lead you back to knowing whom to trust, because that knowledge has been there all the while, since the get-go -- it just got knocked offline by childhood trauma. And if it got knocked offline, it can be returned to its original, true state. Thanks, as always, Anna, for posting here.
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Re: Wellness and Resiliency Toolkit for Kids with Trauma
Wonderful! Thank you so much for sharing. I have utilized some of these techniques when working with children in the mental health and school settings. But, some are new to me. I love the suggestions. I would love to include this booklet in our Sammie's Bundles of Hope care-giver folders (a project where we provide anxiety reducing trinkets such as stress balls, bubbles, fidget spinners, etc. to children with trauma history). This would be such a valuable resource to add. Peace, Teri...
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Re: Wellness and Resiliency Toolkit for Kids with Trauma
Teri, you have my permission to reproduce and include in your folders. Enjoy!
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Re: I Experienced Trauma — Here Are The Wellness Practices I Rely On To Cope [mindbodygreen.com]
Excellent! And oh-so-true recommendations. I love the idea of learning to be in my body as I have started utilizing dance again as a means to release energy and connect to my physical being. Thanks for this. Peace, Teri
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Re: Defining Resilience Series: Step 5 - Healthy Habit Formation
Thank you for the positive feedback! I just read one of your "Ten Tools for Trauma Survivors" blog and felt the same about it . . . I could tell you were sharing your truth as you've lived it and healed from it. Excellent! As an EMDR fan (98 sessions over a 4 year period for complex trauma), I love reading about others' experiences with it. Thank you. Peace, Teri
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Re: Defining Resilience Series: Step 5 - Healthy Habit Formation
Teri, I'm glad you enjoyed the "Ten Tools for Trauma Survivors" post, but I did not write it, I was just sharing it here! The only attribution I could find on the blog where it was posted was "Abuse Survivor". I hope there was nothing about the post that led anyone to believe that I was taking credit for it. I would never want to do that. (I do have an anonymous blog, but this is not from that blog and I did not write it.)
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Re: Defining Resilience Series: Step 5 - Healthy Habit Formation
Oh my gosh! I totally looked for an author name on the blog, but did not see one. My bad for assuming it was yours. Thanks for clarifying.
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Re: Defining Resilience Series: Step 6 - Find a Guiding Hand to Hold
I love it . . . I am right there with you, needing to find ALL the answers! I never really knew much about the concept of coaching until I started interviewing ACEs champions and found so many beautiful souls offering their coaching services to others. Like you said, "working with a life coach to get back on track can be a solid way to reclaim one's life." Agreed! Thanks for the feedback. Peace, Teri
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Re: Why It Pays to Fully Heal from Childhood Trauma [pro.psychcentral.com/exhausted-woman]
This is great. Thanks for sharing, Laura. I love how the article lists specific behaviors/responses for therapy clients to gauge how they're healing and growing. I'll share this with my clients and on my private Facebook page for sexual abuse survivors. Thanks again.
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Re: Why It Pays to Fully Heal from Childhood Trauma [pro.psychcentral.com/exhausted-woman]
I like it because for those who may be skeptical about how childhood trauma has impacted them (downplaying one's experiences is so common among ACEs survivors) or how therapy might improve their entire lives, this demonstrates (accurately, I might add), how childhood trauma and/or PTSD affects one's daily, mundane experiences, around the clock -- not only the big, overarching stuff like relationships and careers, but also simply going to the grocery store or navigating rush-hour traffic. It...
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Re: For Many People with Anxiety, Self-Care Just Doesn’t Work [healthline.com]
Hi Laura, I love your well-thought-out analysis. Thanks for sharing your insights. I had read the entire article before posting my comment and wonder, as you noted, if the beginning was click bait motivated. At the same time, all articles are worth posting when they raise worthwhile discussion and reflection. I reacted to this article because one of my biggest pet peeves is when authors seem to try to boost themselves/their approach by denigrating others. I see this with a backlash to...
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Re: The Importance of Connecting with Your Inner Child
I'm going to send this to someone I dearly love--had a conversation with her about this just last night!
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Re: Yoga Transformed Me After Trauma and Sexual Assault [yogajournal.com]
LOVE THS ARTICLE!!! SOOO admire Ebony and want to cheer her on!!! Thank you for sharing with us, Laura!
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Re: Yoga Transformed Me After Trauma and Sexual Assault [yogajournal.com]
Are you kidding, Gail? I couldn't post this article here fast enough ! It's like the brass ring of post-trauma stories!
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Re: Why Focus on Resilience? 2019 BPT Conference Big Idea Session with Teri Barila
Thanks for sharing the information about the conference, Tara. Also: love the quote from Desmond Tutu. Sounds like the ACEs study in a nutshell.
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Re: Vacancy: Self-Worth in the Mind of a Childhood Abuse Survivor
Yes. This. So much so. Thank you for this beautifully written summation of my current state. I love helping others along their healing journey and feel blessed to have reached a place of profound healing to be able to do so. However, I have found myself in a place of overwhelm and self-imposed isolation these past few months. I continue doing my thing . . . blogging, podcast interviews, therapy dog volunteer work . . . and, I truly believe, that has kept me grounded. My therapy. A great way...
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Re: How to Practice Deep Relaxation (lionsroar.com)
Awesomeness! I love the idea of doing this between activities during a busy day, even for just a few moments. Thanks!
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Re: Seven Benefits of Working with a Therapy Animal from a Handler's Perspective
There's so much to like about this "love letter" to working with a therapy animal, if I may. Two bits that stand out, though, are "Do I approach with a 'wagging tail' and welcoming aura?" -- definitely goals for which to strive. I know that in my decades-long habitual self-guarding and hypervigilance, I can unintentionally come off as aloof. I'm now inspired to try to wag my figurative tail when approached or approaching others. And this whole piece just sings with the fact that you and...
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Re: Seven Benefits of Working with a Therapy Animal from a Handler's Perspective
Oh, I so relate to what you wrote about the hypervigilance bit and coming off as aloof. I lived in a guarded state for decades. Once I started the healing journey I began shining a light from within and found myself smiling without even realizing I was doing so as I would notice others smiling back at me or stating, "You must be having a great day based upon that grin!" And, yes, yes, yes . . . I find joy in watching Sammie help children find their smiles which naturally brings me to a place...
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Re: Seven Strategies I Use To Reregulate As Anxiety Symptoms Surface
Love it! Another fellow jigsaw puzzler! Thank you for the information about your website and podcast and also for your invitation. I am interested and will be in touch! Blessings, Diane
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Re: Happiness Is an Activity [psychologytoday.com]
"Work activity can reduce anxiety." - I think this is why my late grandmother rarely sat down. And, yeah, there's no peace in sedentariness. Rest is essential, but inactivity equals death. Another reason to love standing desks .
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Re: Opening Up by Writing It Down: How Expressive Writing Improves Health and Eases Emotional Pain
Jill: I love this. I think this is a new version of an older work, is it not? I know his first version of Opening Up is from the 80's and I have that copy. I have written a white paper on this topic as well, how expressive writing eases symptoms of traumatic stress, which includes an overview of Pennebaker's work. I love free-writing, and sometimes do it alone, sometimes in community. When the community is safe, it's a BEAUTIFUL process because all are invited to share and are often prompted...
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Re: The House of Mourning (www.themoth.org)
What a lovely write-up. I love doing something "unconstraining" like free-"doing" as well :-). I read Kate's book "Here if You Need Me" some years ago and found her writing and story and work to all be deeply resourcing, as are her and your words here about grief and our bodies. Our bodies are our friends even as they feel so much and can have so many problems. It took me a long time to figure that out. Our early experiences can make our bodies seem like the enemy. Instead, they offer a way...
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Re: The House of Mourning (www.themoth.org)
Hi Veronique: Our bodies as our friends. Heck yes. Just today I was discussing this. In my youth, I could and often did "dig deep" and draw from what I thought was a bottomless well. Now, if I don't keep up with my own routines and caring for myself practices, I get really worn out and don't have the same ability to just keep going on fumes. Some of my old habits are still with me. And sometimes I feel like I'm just worn out by age or years. But other times I think I'm more sensitive and...
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Re: Self-Care, Self-Compassion slideset.pdf
Dana: This is such a gift. I'm so glad you shared it here. It's so visually beatiful and I love that the links direct to music, etc. What inspiration, support, beauty and healing. BEAUTIFUL! Thank you for sharing this here!!!! Cis
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Re: Thoughts to share
Love these Michael! My quote of the day from my meditation app Calm: If you are acting like a sheep do not blame the shepherd. You cannot herd lions. Wake up and roar and you are free. - Papaji
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Re: 3 Ways Healthy Relationships Help Heal Trauma
Hi Robyn! This is a fabulous article! I'd love to interview you for an upcoming mini-course I'm creating.
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Re: 3 Ways Healthy Relationships Help Heal Trauma
Hi Stacy. I am glad you enjoyed my article. I'd love to hear more about you and what you are doing and looking for - why don't you email me at the office directly, robyn@robynbrickel.com and we can email further. Thank you for your interest.
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Re: Coping Skills for Quarantines
Michael: Thank you for sharing this! I love lists and visuals and reminders and this is ALL of that! Cissy
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Re: My Story about Healing Moving from “What is wrong with me” to “What is happening – how can I take better care of myself?”
Jessie: I LOVE this post and relate to so much from the ear infections, to the anaphylaxis in college to we still don't know what, to the health challenges, divorce, and the cancer, and high ACEs, and to the HEALING! There is healing and high ACEs are a risk factor but not a death sentence. Also, a 50-year old baby doll is exactly how I feel and look right now. Anyhow, THANK YOU for sharing this and reminding me and others to focus in on the healing and the opportunities as well as honoring...
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Re: Therapy Dogs and Service Dogs: What Are They and Why Are They Important?
My dear friend works in the mortuary science field and informed me that therapy dogs (animals) are now being utilized to help the bereaved at funeral homes (per the request of the family, obviously). I love it that the power of these sweet animals is being recognized as a healing tool in so many arenas.
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Re: Therapy Dogs and Service Dogs: What Are They and Why Are They Important?
I don't think there's any place or situation where dogs can't provide healing and comfort (but I'm biased ).
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Re: Resilience: A Conversation
I'm so impressed that you two took this conversation to Zoom and agreed to post it here. I learned a lot from listening to you both and I hope you'll post more episodes of what I hear has been dubbed the "Cissy and Rebecca Show". Maybe you'll start an ACN trend! When you posted the original "We Can Do It!" meme, I saw it on social media and ever since have been meaning to stop by and say I love it. It struck a nerve with me. Sometimes suggesting that people with a history of trauma simply...
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