Tagged With "Adverse Childhood Experiences"
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Re: When You Need to Slow Down But It’s Hard [blogs.psychcentral.com]
Oh, yes to all of this. And productivity -- or rather chronic busyness -- can be especially seductive to adults with a history of childhood trauma. It can be a great distraction from uncomfortable emotions, memories, or thoughts. Plus, when you have a history of being made to feel helpless as a dependent child, the lure of feeling as if you actually have choices and can get something accomplished can be hard to resist. Good article -- the questions to ask oneself are very helpful. Thanks for...
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Re: Put down the self-help books. Resilience is not a DIY endeavour (theglobeandmail.com)
Cheryl, I'm so happy to hear that your son is giving you the support you've needed for so long. I also believe that childhood trauma is the cause of most if not all mental illness -- and that's ANOTHER idea that is getting a lot of press lately. It seems the tide is turning favorably. Let us brace ourselves for the inevitable backlash .
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Re: Mind Matters: Overcoming Adversity and Building Resilience Two-Day Intensive Training
Thanks for posting the information about the training here, Kay.
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Re: To Heal CPTSD, Do You Need to Love Yourself?
I never thought of it this way before, but your take on the whole self-love thing is profound, and clearly comes from a place of experience. I really like what you have to say about how these steps will lead you back to knowing whom to trust, because that knowledge has been there all the while, since the get-go -- it just got knocked offline by childhood trauma. And if it got knocked offline, it can be returned to its original, true state. Thanks, as always, Anna, for posting here.
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Re: Defining Resilience Series: Step 6 - Find a Guiding Hand to Hold
Great post, Teri! Every one of these steps is about connecting -- if not in person, then with information and resources that will help us along as we develop resilience. Then, of course, there are the ACTUAL connections, with therapists, with life coaches, and with friends and likeminded folks. I especially like the life coach suggestion -- I think one common long-term effect of childhood trauma is just getting thrown off track, right from the get-go, whether in our educational pursuits,...
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Re: Tell Me Who You Trust the Most
I think many people who've experienced childhood trauma would recognize this piece as a heartbreakingly accurate depiction of how trauma's effects play out in a child's daily life. I believe this could also serve to help those who haven't experienced it, and even those who may be skeptical of the depth of childhood trauma's impact, to understand. Thank you, Carol.
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Re: Defining Resilience Series: Step 6 - Find a Guiding Hand to Hold
I love it . . . I am right there with you, needing to find ALL the answers! I never really knew much about the concept of coaching until I started interviewing ACEs champions and found so many beautiful souls offering their coaching services to others. Like you said, "working with a life coach to get back on track can be a solid way to reclaim one's life." Agreed! Thanks for the feedback. Peace, Teri
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Re: Preparing and Advocating for Medical Care as a Trauma Survivor
Lara... This is great article and thorough in addressing the issues sexual abuse survivors face with their medical needs. I'm a psychotherapist with an expertise in childhood sexual abuse and have seen first-hand the anxieties survivors face anticipating medical appointments. I've helped survivors with this by teaching relaxation and visualization techniques to use during exams. You're right that their trauma-based fears and anxiety keep many from getting the preventive care and other...
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Re: Ancestral Trauma Meets Yoga in a Hospital Setting
I think the last paragraph is my favorite part of this piece. Sitting with discomfort -- whether it be over an experience like the one you describe at the hospital, memories and long-term effects of childhood trauma, or more common, everyday difficulties -- is really the most effective way to grow and move beyond that discomfort. Yoga is certainly one of the better tools we have for helping ourselves and others with that. Thank you, Kriaten, for sharing this here.
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Re: Why It Pays to Fully Heal from Childhood Trauma [pro.psychcentral.com/exhausted-woman]
I like it because for those who may be skeptical about how childhood trauma has impacted them (downplaying one's experiences is so common among ACEs survivors) or how therapy might improve their entire lives, this demonstrates (accurately, I might add), how childhood trauma and/or PTSD affects one's daily, mundane experiences, around the clock -- not only the big, overarching stuff like relationships and careers, but also simply going to the grocery store or navigating rush-hour traffic. It...
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Re: Do You Need Spirituality to Recover from CPTSD?
Hi Anna, I'm a holistic psychotherapist with a specialization in childhood trauma. I do believe that one's connection with a Higher Power—in whatever form that takes—makes a profound difference in healing. Thank you for your post and video. Warmly, Diane
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Re: The Importance of Connecting with Your Inner Child
Very encouraging post. I'm not sure anyone who's experienced childhood trauma can recover from its effects without connecting with their inner child, and I suspect that getting to know one's inner child is helpful even for those with no history of childhood trauma. Our childhood experiences -- good, bad, indifferent, and everything in between -- really do lay the foundation for all else to come. I think too that when we connect with our inner child, it's easier for us to cultivate...
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Re: The Importance of Connecting with Your Inner Child
Thank you for sharing! I connected to much of what you wrote. Particularly in the first paragraph when you wrote about childhood memories as being "home videos". Oh so true. But, through EMDR therapy I was finally able to see my life and past through my own eyes in lieu of the dissociated state of watching something horrible happen to a little girl (me) as if I was watching a movie. I wish you (and your inner child) continued growth, healing, empowerment, and peace. Teri
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Re: Seven Benefits of Working with a Therapy Animal from a Handler's Perspective
Teri... such beautiful work you do. Your big heart—and Sammie's—help heal so many hearts. ❤️
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Re: Seven Benefits of Working with a Therapy Animal from a Handler's Perspective
There's so much to like about this "love letter" to working with a therapy animal, if I may. Two bits that stand out, though, are "Do I approach with a 'wagging tail' and welcoming aura?" -- definitely goals for which to strive. I know that in my decades-long habitual self-guarding and hypervigilance, I can unintentionally come off as aloof. I'm now inspired to try to wag my figurative tail when approached or approaching others. And this whole piece just sings with the fact that you and...
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Re: Seven Benefits of Working with a Therapy Animal from a Handler's Perspective
Thank you for this. You made my big heart smile big I was away visiting my son in Colorado and had to leave Sammie for a week. She's still not speaking to me. Ha! I'm excited for school to start back up so this dog can begin helping kiddos again.
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Re: Seven Benefits of Working with a Therapy Animal from a Handler's Perspective
Oh, I so relate to what you wrote about the hypervigilance bit and coming off as aloof. I lived in a guarded state for decades. Once I started the healing journey I began shining a light from within and found myself smiling without even realizing I was doing so as I would notice others smiling back at me or stating, "You must be having a great day based upon that grin!" And, yes, yes, yes . . . I find joy in watching Sammie help children find their smiles which naturally brings me to a place...
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Re: Keeping Childhood Trauma A Secret? That Can Lead To Psychological Problems [sandracohenphd.com]
This is a great article, Laura. Thank you. My expertise is in childhood sexual abuse and I'll be sharing this article with my clients and Facebook group. Secrecy certainly adds another level of trauma. Thanks again.
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Re: Seven Strategies I Use To Reregulate As Anxiety Symptoms Surface
Great list, Teri! I'll add another: Knitting. It's my portable therapy. I tend to get anxious when there's turbulence on a plane flight so I always take a knitting project with me when I fly. It's meditative and soothing. Here's some information and research about the health benefits of knitting: https://well.blogs.nytimes.com...enefits-of-knitting/ Thanks again for your great and useful post!
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Re: Seven Strategies I Use To Reregulate As Anxiety Symptoms Surface
Wonderful! Thanks for the knitting suggestion. I have a friend who swears by knitting when she flies, as well.
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Re: Seven Strategies I Use To Reregulate As Anxiety Symptoms Surface
Teri... and here's another one: Jigsaw puzzles. I can get absorbed in a puzzle for hours. While not portable like knitting, jigsaw puzzles are meditative and relaxing. I always have one going on a table in my home. I'm a psychotherapist and will pass on your suggestions and post to my clients and followers. Thanks again!
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Re: Seven Strategies I Use To Reregulate As Anxiety Symptoms Surface
Yes!!! I am a fan of jigsaw puzzles, as well. Great reminder! Thank you. And thanks for passing along my post. I have a website that has links to resources regarding ACEs, trauma, hope and healing . . . including my podcast. Many ACEs Connection members have joined me on air to discuss the healing work they are doing and/or their own healing journeys. If you'd ever like to join me, please reach out at info@teriwellbrock.com . I am now booking into August and beyond (on summer hiatus to...
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Re: Seven Strategies I Use To Reregulate As Anxiety Symptoms Surface
Love it! Another fellow jigsaw puzzler! Thank you for the information about your website and podcast and also for your invitation. I am interested and will be in touch! Blessings, Diane
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Re: Study: 1 in 4 Who Meditate Have Had Bad Psychological Experience [psychcentral.com]
This article makes sense. I attended a 10-day silent Vipassana meditation retreat and it was an amazing experience. But I already had been meditating regularly for many years. I wouldn't recommend it to my clients—or anyone—if meditation is new to them. In my opinion, you need to have a degree of solid internal grounding first and some experience with meditation, otherwise, it could be a very difficult experience. Other forms of meditation also can feel hard for people who experienced...
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Re: Seven Strategies I Use To Reregulate As Anxiety Symptoms Surface
What a lovely collection of ways to calm yourself while away from home (or in general). Just looking at your coloring projects, your photos, and Sammie help me feel calmer. Your coloring and photos are just stunning, Teri. I second Diane's suggestion of knitting while flying. It helps distract me from my anxiety even if I have to "frog it" (rip it back) afterward because I made so many mistakes .
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Re: Keeping Childhood Trauma A Secret? That Can Lead To Psychological Problems [sandracohenphd.com]
Yes. Secrecy seems often to be both a cause of and a result of trauma. So pleased you find the article worth sharing with your clients and Facebook group.
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Re: Seven Strategies I Use To Reregulate As Anxiety Symptoms Surface
Aw! Thank you, Laura! You made me heart smile with that. My dad and sister were/are phenomenal artists and I can't even draw a straight line with a ruler. LOL! But, coloring and photography and writing . . . THOSE I can do. For years I told myself I wasn't artistic because I couldn't draw or create magnificent artwork like them. So glad I found my own creative outlets. Now I admire and applaud their work while being appreciative of my own. I may have to give knitting a whirl. Who knows,...
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Re: Sesame Street Resources for Families Coping After Natural Disasters
Andrea, thank you so much for sharing these excellent resources here! I'd like to suggest that you share them with a couple of other ACEs Connection communities as well -- ACEs in Early Childhood and ACEs in Education . If you have questions or need more information, please let me know!
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Re: Donna Jackson Nakazawa: “The Angel And The Assassin” on WYPR www.wypr.org/ & Commentary
Been hearing so much about this new book, and looking forward to reading it soon. Jackson Nakazawa's book "Childhood Disrupted" is how I found out about ACEsConnection.com and AcesTooHigh.com. Thanks, Cissy.
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Re: Thoughts to share
Love these Michael! My quote of the day from my meditation app Calm: If you are acting like a sheep do not blame the shepherd. You cannot herd lions. Wake up and roar and you are free. - Papaji
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Re: CPTSD and Social Awkwardness: Another Source of Isolation
Great post. The thing I like about your blog posts/videos, Anna, is that they often address those otherwise "sidelined" effects of childhood trauma -- the ones that don't often make the clinical "symptoms of childhood trauma" lists. They're also the ones that those of us who've experienced childhood trauma suspect, in our perhaps not-always accurate (because they've been thrown off-kilter by the trauma) guts and hearts that this everyday problem that we can't quite put our finger on is yet...
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Re: Dysregulation & CPTSD -- Triggered by Hurrying and Overwhelm?
Hmmm. I stay busy as an avoidance tactic but I never thought of hurrying, via procrastination, as such a tactic. I think I hurry because I pressure myself to get to the next thing on my list so I can stay busy AND because I'm overwhelmed by feeling as if I need to get everything done -- it's all on me. And I resent it when other people hurry me because it seems counterproductive. In any case, hurrying and overwhelm definitely trigger me. Yet another sidelined and little-recognized effect of...
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Re: Dysregulation & CPTSD -- Triggered by Hurrying and Overwhelm?
Re: Dysregulation & CPTSD -- Triggered by Hurrying and Overwhelm?
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Re: Pip had high #ACEs
Elizabeth, this is brilliant. An insightful analysis of a classic work of literature through the lens of ACEs. I know what book I'm adding to my Goodreads list, and I'll be using your post as a reading guide. Makes me yearn for an "ACEs in Literature" course. I nominate Elizabeth to teach it! And it could make a great new ACEs community. Thanks for sharing this, Elizabeth. It sure has my wheels turning.
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Re: Dr. Felitti Describes Future of ACE on TV Show with Dr. Alman
Thanks so much for posting your interview with Dr. Felitti. It seems that patient response to the opportunity to disclose their adverse childhood experiences (including apparent lack of objection or offense at being asked such personal and potentially upsetting questions) discounts much of the resistance by physicians to incorporate the ACEs questionnaire into their practices. It sounds as if not only were some patients relieved and grateful to have an opportunity to share what had happened...
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Re: Sick and Stressed from CPTSD? Power Up Your SELF CARE (Resilience Series)
True self-care -- difficult to prioritize for anyone, but possibly more so for those with childhood PTSD, because of the tendency to minimize our experiences and to fall prey to depression and anxiety, which often make it harder to just plain function, much less pay attention to and heed our self-care needs. At the same time, self-care essential to healing from childhood PTSD. I don't think healing will happen without it. Thanks, Anna.
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Re: Six Signs Your Brain is Dysregulated (and Ten Steps to Get Re-Regulated Again)
For many childhood trauma survivors, there's a certain something, a je ne sais quoi, that colors their daily living no matter how well-treated any other related diagnoses, such as anxiety or depression, are. Maybe that certain something, or one part of that certain something, is the brain dysregulation you describe here, Anna. It sure rings true to me, and I bet it does to others too. The do-anywhere methods for re-regulating are much appreciated, and I'll be testing some of them out soon...
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Re: Are You Re-Traumatizing Yourself? 16 Things We Do That Can Set Us Back with Childhood PTSD
While I agree that these behaviors can be re-traumatizing and are characteristic of dysregulation, in my mind they are all simply symptoms of unaddressed, untreated/undertreated trauma. They're the "cries for help" that tell the person experiencing them (and maybe the people around them) that there's something not quite right. But even after effective treatment of childhood trauma, they can still crop up because those old habits we developed to survive all those years ago die very hard.
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Re: When Mindfulness Is a Trauma Trigger: April #MeToo
Helen, thank you so much for sharing this very personal account of your healing from childhood trauma. I can relate to feeling unsafe just about anywhere, as I'm sure many others on this site can. Unfortunately, for those with a history of childhood trauma, that can be their normal, their setpoint. "I'm glad it's happened, I tell them" -- it seems to me that in recognizing that you felt as if you might be attacked during corpse pose, and then being present enough to remind yourself that...
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Re: you are one of the cool kids
There is much research showing that a sense of connection to others is crucial to well-being, maybe more important than just about any other factor. @Morgan Vien has posted to this group about that topic several times. And one common effect of childhood trauma is a sense of disconnect, which can and often does lead to self-isolation in adulthood. A finding that's emerged from studies on what helps children bounce back and thrive after trauma is that in many cases, a caring adult in that...
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Re: Therapy Dogs and Service Dogs: What Are They and Why Are They Important?
Informative article. Aren't we all fortunate that Elaine Smith and her colleagues persevered in the face of skepticism and ridicule when they brought dogs into the nursing home? Thanks, Teri.
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Re: Therapy Dogs and Service Dogs: What Are They and Why Are They Important?
My dear friend works in the mortuary science field and informed me that therapy dogs (animals) are now being utilized to help the bereaved at funeral homes (per the request of the family, obviously). I love it that the power of these sweet animals is being recognized as a healing tool in so many arenas.
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Re: Therapy Dogs and Service Dogs: What Are They and Why Are They Important?
I don't think there's any place or situation where dogs can't provide healing and comfort (but I'm biased ).