I offer my survivor story to this particular conversation. The book is called Years of Tears by Maxine Browne. After 10 years of debilitating verbal and psychological abuse, I was able to break the cycle of domestic violence. Two of my children tell of being abused by their controlling step-father. One suffered a mental breakdown. We are all still suffering residual effects of those years of abuse. We have been "safe" for 8 plus years now. Domestic violence and child abuse are "gifts" that keep on giving.
The book is available on Amazon and there is also a Kindle version.