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Re: Get results with better parenting conversations video series (www.successfulsurvivors.org)
Hi Rick: That's an excellent point. While that Muriel Rukeyser quote speaks to me and is why I do what I do as an outspoken advocate, I can see that it doesn't feel inclusive. You are correct, traumatic stress, in children and adults happens to men and women. Thank you for pointing that out. I've changed the quote in my profile. Cissy
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Re: How Does Trauma Affect a Person’s Interaction with Their Child? (www.nicabm.com) & Commentary
I did watch it. I don't know if there was a time limit they were trying to stay within, but I agree with your point, "What those of us parenting with ACEs can do to improve our parenting, ourselves and our relationships isn't discussed. It's more about parents than it is by or for parents. The voice of parents with a trauma history is missing entirely." Lisa
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Re: How Does Trauma Affect a Person’s Interaction with Their Child? (www.nicabm.com) & Commentary
Thanks for posting Cissy. I would also add that this is an "us vs. them" persective. We are professionals that may educate and support parents but some of us are also parents and trauma survivors and the more we can see ourselves in the "we", the better we all will be. To Rick's point we can all support each other here in this community to try and model this for others.
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Re: How Does Trauma Affect a Person’s Interaction with Their Child? (www.nicabm.com) & Commentary
Gail: The us/them thing, I think, is part of what we need to bridge and change. It does seem to be happening in lots of places but not so much yet when it comes to mental health. It's too bad since so many of us are "us" and "them" when it comes to parents/kids and patients/providers. I try to point out these things without falling into shaming others for shaming because that's not what I want to do. Lots of room for me to grow as well. I'm so glad we can keep conversations going and growing...
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Re: "They Know My Name": Parents Help Make a Collective Impact
Kimberlee, Thank you for being the squeaky wheel and transforming your passionate parenting and advocacy into action! We are also the parents of two kids diagnosed with ASD when they were young. In elementary school, one of our sons, who had a full-time 1:1 Behavioral Aide was bullied during recess - to the point of being on the ground 13 times - with the Aide standing right there! Each time we contacted the school and sent a follow up letter asking them to PLEASE protect our son. The last...
![Creating a Culture of Compassion in Schools [15min]](https://www.pacesconnection.com/g/Parenting-with-ACEs/fileSendAction/fcType/5/fcOid/428161912348240421/primaryPicture/true/fodoid/428161912348240427/imageType/LARGE_SQUARE_THUMBNAIL/inlineImage/true/thumbnail.jpg "Creating a Culture of Compassion in Schools [15min]")
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Re: Alice Miller's For Your Own Good: Hidden Cruelty in Child-Rearing and the Roots of Violence
Yes, and sadly it may have taken generations and lots of child psychology/parenting education classes to overcome this phenomenon! My great-grandfather immigrated from Germany and 3 generations later, in spite of advancing his education in child psychology, my father was very very strict and punitive. Not to the point of physical beating, but words and body language can do much to break down a child's self-esteem and ego. By the time I majored in early childhood education at CSU Sacramento,...
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Re: Need opinions about parenting and self-care blog!
Akacia: Hello. Nice to meet you. I'm the Community Manager for this community and I really hope you'll share your blog posts HERE. I think your perspective is key and I appreciate how much you shared. There are over 300 hundred of us here and many of us are parents or work with parents (have ACEs, kids or people we love or work with have ACEs) and we're all learning about trauma informed EVERYTHING and how we can heal and help support and understand our kids and be there for our kids. I love...
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Re: There is Only Rejection (www.beatingtrauma.com)
PS. I JUST Want to add that if I want to embrace Inner change. Then I must begin to investigate my Judgements and my Beliefs.... that's a good starting point on going on the inner journey of non violence with myself first. Rick
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Re: Is ACEs Advocacy Worth Risking Professional Backlash?
Cis, being "googlable" effects everything now. Especially parenting. I often talk to my daughter (she's almost 8, my son is only 4) about the work I do helping people who have difficult lives. I make a point to not say mental illness but that's a whole other topic. What I find difficult is when I'm working at home on ACESs related advocacy work and she asks me what it is and why. It's tough to figure out how much detail and personal truths to answer her with.
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Re: Star Neuroscientist Tom Insel Leaves the Google-Spawned Verily for … a Startup? (www.wired.com) & Commentary
Cissy: Two things especially struck me, “... I think I succeeded at getting lots of really cool papers published by cool scientists at fairly large costs—I think $20 billion—I don’t think we moved the needle in reducing suicide, reducing hospitalizations, improving recovery for the tens of millions of people who have mental illness,” Insel says. and then your comment, "I worry though that more sophisticated tracking of symptoms and health records though will be another way to manage...
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Re: Self Care Isn’t Enough When You Parent Complex Kids (huffingtonpost.com)
Dana: Thanks for this great article. It's so good. I believe in the power of self-care to support healing. However, it doesn't always address the social and personal inequities that make caring for the self possible, affordable or accessible and certainly isn't a cure all. But, I love opening this conversation up and making sure that major point is never missed. One of the reasons I'm insane about guided imagery or expressive writing done alone or in groups is they can both helps people...
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Re: ACES/Resilience Surveys w/Parents
Thank you for your reply, Cissy! I appreciate the perspective you shared. What we ended up doing at the first evening of the event was sending the parents home with a folder that had the ACEs and Resilience surveys, in addition to some other brief documents about Resilience, Serve and Return, etc. On the second evening, we did ask parents to reflect on their experience if they had done the survey at home. I especially like the point you made about acknowledging that often, we don't...
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Re: UPDATED Parent Handouts: Understanding ACEs, Parenting to Prevent & Heal ACEs
Great point! I think more variations, styles, formats, format sizes, etc. are needed! Please share any you use, link to, like, know of, have created. We want to capture as much as we can! And when we revised last versions, we read all the comments so all feedback is appreciated! Cissy
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Re: Power and Partnership: A Guide to Improving Frontline Practice with Parents in the Child Welfare System (www.risemagazine.org) & the Importance of Lived Expertise
Thank you, Cissy, for mentioning us. At Echo, we are focused on survivors and survivor empowerment. That, I believe, is the true definition of being trauma-informed. If professionals come to our trainings and are thrown off by the fact we are survivor-centered, then they are missing the point. Being trauma-informed is not another skill or string to the professional bow. If it does not focus ultimately on restoring the power and control to survivors over their own lives, it is not healing and...
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Re: Power and Partnership: A Guide to Improving Frontline Practice with Parents in the Child Welfare System (www.risemagazine.org) & the Importance of Lived Expertise
Louise: I'm going to have to quote you on this. Thanks for walking the talk and helping show how it's done. " Being trauma-informed is not another skill or string to the professional bow. If it does not focus ultimately on restoring the power and control to survivors over their own lives, it is not healing and it is not trauma-informed. " Please let me know of other people and orgs as I want to keep shining a light on survivor-led, survivor-centered work and I know there's much more than I'm...
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The Traumatic Impact of Racism on Young People and How to Talk About It [Dr. Kenneth Ginsburg]
Dr. Kenneth Ginsburg (Keynote speaker from the recent Creating a Resilient Community Conference) shared the excerpt from his book Reaching Teens titled The Traumatic Impact of Racism on Young People and How to Talk About It. This is a valuable resource for anyone interacting with youth and we are providing the excerpt as an attachment here for you to read and share. Also, Dr. Ginsburg will be coming back to our community (virtually) and you’ll be invited to his workshop. Look out for the...
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New Research Shows Killings by Police Hurt Grades, Graduation Rates of Nearby Black and Hispanic Schoolchildren [educationnext.org]
By Desmond Ang, EducationNext, June 4, 2020 How will the death of George Floyd affect Minneapolis schoolchildren? New research I conducted on the effects of police violence indicates that it will significantly hurt their educational and emotional well-being. Examining detailed data on more than 700,000 public high school students and over 600 officer-involved killings in a large urban county, I found that police use of force has large, negative spillovers on educational achievement and...
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Association of Work Requirements With Supplemental Nutrition Assistance Program Participation by Race/Ethnicity and Disability Status, 2013-2017 [jamanetwork.com]
By Erin Brantley, Drishti Pillai, and Leighton Ku, JAMA Network Open, June 26, 2020 Key Points Español 中文 (Chinese) Question What are the associations between work requirements and Supplemental Nutrition Assistance Program participation for the overall target population and subpopulations? Findings In this pooled cross-sectional study of 866 000 low-income US adults, work requirements were associated with a 4.0 percentage point decrease in participation for the target population of childless...
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America's child care problem is an economic problem [vox.com]
By Anna North, Vox, July 16, 2020 The nation’s largest school district, New York City, said last week that students will be physically in classrooms only part time at the most in the fall. The nation’s second-largest, Los Angeles, announced Monday that it will be remote only. Meanwhile, day care centers around the country are closing their doors, unable to balance the higher operating costs and reduced enrollment that came with the coronavirus pandemic. Experts have been warning for months...
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This wasn't the first time
Going out to buy groceries, going out for a walk, driving your kid back home from school. For most people these activities are normal, everyday things with little to no excitement, as they should be. Unfortunately, getting food, exercising, and supporting my son’s education have been a little more out of the ordinary for me. You see, I am a Mexican Indigenous man, brown skin, shaved head. My ethnicity and physical appearance are by no means unusual, especially in the part of the country...
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Parents Need Help with Trauma Too: A Bottom-Up Approach
Psych Central published my latest article on trauma and it's one you don't want to miss! Through my work with children coping with Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) the historical trajectory became very clear to me. Often childhood trauma doesn't start with the child who was traumatized, but it starts with the parents and grandparents of that child who were overwhelmed by adversity and never had help. Unprocessed emotional trauma is likely to be passed on in some capacity to at least the...
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How I Became a Champion for Trauma-Informed Change
I began riding the “trauma-informed care” wave three years prior to realizing I was part of something bigger than my own vision to bust open the conversation on trauma. When my life as a writer, editor, and advocate for parenting survivors of childhood abuse collided with my professional life as a mental health care manager, I knew the universe was trying to tell me something. Having long ago succumbed to the realization that everything really does happen for a reason, I started to see my...
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Parenting for Resilience by Kristin Beasley, PhD
Resilience, the ability to overcome adversity, is not an innate skill or genetic trait. Resilience is the ability to recover after adversity strike. None of us escape trauma, at some point in our lives, we will each face at least one overwhelming events that test our capacity to recover. Resilience is a quality that is develops from experiences where a person, even a baby, must deal with manageable stress and is supported enough to recover. It’s not a quality that you are born with, or...
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Creating meaning in our choices as CPTSD survivors
There is a place that we get trapped in the choices that we make. I want to think that conflict happens when there is a collision of values between the person you were and the person you are becoming. In the moments of change in the healing process, we reach plateaus, not as in the end but as in a time to create a shift. When this happens, we are faced with making a choice: do we act according to the person we were or the person we have become and are moving in towards. We hit a wall in...
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The parental burnout crisis has reached a tipping point (vox.com)
Millions of parents were already burned out by the demands of pandemic child-rearing in April . Summer , with school out and many camps closed, brought no relief. Then came fall, with many parents juggling the ins and outs of remote learning — and a staggering 865,000 women , many of them moms, dropping out of the workforce. Now it’s December, and parents are still in the same situation they were thrust into nine months ago: trying to balance work, child care, education, and keeping their...
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