Cissy's Note: We're not alone and organizations like the Attachment Trauma Network are summarizing resources and offerings and remembering the entire school community - including parents. Below, there's an excerpt from a recent blog post with resources. Also, per Julie Beem, the Executive Director of the Trauma Attachment Network, (she's smart, kind, and wonderful), more resources will be coming this week and next. And they will be shared here as soon as they are available.
While these resources are geared towards parents and teachers who may not be as post-traumatically stressed as our kids are or some of us are, they are still useful. I love to get an idea and baseline of what the regulated people who might wake up regulated without effort are aiming to offer and to do so not as a way of shaming myself or comparing, but as a way of learning what I can strive towards. Often, in the last two decades, I think about parenting and re-parenting myself to heal, as well as being a more secure parent for my daughter, and the Attachment & Trauma Network is one of my favorite resources for this because it talks about attachment and attachment challenges in realistic and compassionate ways (we know that is not always the case).
So, please share what's helping you manage, as a parent, as a survivor, as a professional or some blend of all of those things. I'm getting LOTS of emails and that is wonderful, but also feel free to post in Parenting with ACEs and on ACEs Connection, as a blog post, a comment as that is always available for all members to do. And let me know if you need help with how to do that!
From the Attachment Trauma Network piece entitled Trauma-Informed Resources Available During COVID-19 Quarantine:
ATN knows that the social distancing going on now can be VERY unsettling for our children impacted by trauma. Their early adversities cause them heightened anxiety when there are changes and when the adults in their world seem tense. Yet, we also have opportunities to increase connection, enhance our relationship with our children and model how to stay regulated when things are not “normal”.
Here are tips we have for families on a forced “Staycation” with children who have been impacted by trauma and by attachment disorders (Note: resources will be posted March 17):
Tips for Trauma-Informed Parents during Social Distancing, Part 2