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Narcissists and Your Toxic Insecurity [goodmenproject.com]

 

By Jennifer B. Rhodes, The Good Men Project, April 26, 2021

I have a great deal of compassion for my clients and other people who are waking up to the realization that the person they love or the family they grew up in is, indeed, narcissistic. I’ve been there. Over a decade ago, I went through the most gut wrenching breakup with the man I thought I was going to marry. While I will leave the details for you to read in my forthcoming book Toxic Insecurity: The Path of Relational Spirituality and Our Search for Authentic Love (for it is an amusing story that includes his mother), I want to highlight the rage that I felt at that time. My whole life collapsed and a journey was started — except I had no idea that I was starting a journey. I just thought that a jerk destroyed my life.

How did I miss the signs? As I went down the journey of healing my anxious attachment and relational trauma, I blamed myself for not seeing the problems. Then I blamed my therapist who did not help me see. Then I blamed everyone for making me suffer. There have been some dark moments along this path of recovery from what I now can clearly see was trauma at the hands of someone who, at the very least, had narcissistic traits. The realization, however, is that it was not his fault nor anyone else’s fault. I simply did not have an education about how to listen to my emotions or my body.

If there is no other point that you get out of this article it is this — there is no amount of intellectual knowledge that is going to help you avoid these people if your energy and your emotions have not been cleared of trauma. For many of us that also includes past life trauma. If you are highly sensitive, an empath, and especially if you resonate with the concept of being a Starseed, you are in for a profound healing journey (if you haven’t started it yet). We are in the midst of a global awakening that has pulled the veil from our eyes of what we will tolerate in our personal lives or in our relationships with people in the work place. It is shocking to realize that so many narcissists exist — although it shouldn’t surprise you. Our culture has rewarded this kind of behavior with monetary gains for a very long time. It is the epitome of toxic masculinity and we all need to take responsibility that we have put financial security and wellbeing as a priority in choosing our spouses. It has trained people to seek money rather than emotional intelligence for far too long.

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